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        03-25-2013, 07:50 PM
      #21
    Yearling
    I don't know why you made this forum but we all have hearts so it all affects us deeply. I never have lost any horses that I owned but I consider that I lost a horse that I loved alot, I considered him a dear friend. It still hurts me that he was in a paddock all by himself in pain for hours. He was not owned by me but he taught me how to ride, how to love and trust a horse. He taught me walk trot canter jump. He was the first horse I ever rode.
    I could tell you all bout him, how he was, everything from the way he'd pin his ears if a horse come to close to his best friend Melody or that he would bolt around like a headless chook if she wasnt with him. He made a purring noise when you took him out trail riding and always did everything you asked, If I could go back in time and have the one last canter that I gave up I would....
    Its true noone will understand in some ways, but in alot more ways people understand. He wasnt my horse but I loved him. I think unless your a total jerk that everyone actually really understands what it is to lose someone. Its the worst feeling theres nothing like it. We are all programmed to feel.

    ..I hope this makes sense...
         
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        03-25-2013, 07:56 PM
      #22
    Green Broke
    I just saw this thread and I know how you feel!
         
        03-25-2013, 07:57 PM
      #23
    Super Moderator
    Maybe if you don't want well meaning comments like that its best not to post about the death of a horse at all
    I still shed a tear for all the dear wonderful horses I've lost over the years and so does my tough, hard, husband.
         
        03-26-2013, 04:37 PM
      #24
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by Princess42    
    Sorry everyone I wrote this last night whilst I was upset, hope nobody was offended I'm very sorry, can you delete a thread?
    I'm sure everyone on here will understand that you spoke out of pain.

    A friend of mine lost her husband a few years ago - now she says, she can remember the days after he died,wondering how anyone could go about their daily business and was angry that people could walk past her house laughing and carrying on with their lives. She didn't know these people, but she knows now that the feelings she had, she was acting out of grief.

    A close friend lost a horse last year - he was her heart horse and she had him put to sleep because of his age and various health issues, and the grief was such that she gave up her job. She still finds it hard now more than a year on x

    People on this forum will support you and some will have gone through the grieving process as you obviously are - however it will manifest itself, sorrow, anger - and please don't take this as another "I know how you're feeling", as I haven't lost a horse yet, but I have lost loved ones, and can remember the helpless pain that seems like nothing can soothe.

    Such is the power of loving another living being xx God Bless xx
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        03-26-2013, 04:42 PM
      #25
    Green Broke
    Someone saying that they "know how you feel" should not diminish what one is feeling. It should comfort the person to know that they are not alone and there are people who understand and can relate to what they are going through.

    It beats the heck out of someone saying "It's an animal .. get over it."

    And FWIW .. if I ever post a thread about losing one of my critters, everyone feel free to comfort me with words of "I've been there and I feel ya, sister"

    That's what I will draw comfort from..
         
        03-26-2013, 04:59 PM
      #26
    Showing
    I understand the anger because that's one of the early stages of grief. That stage passes, but while you're in it you hate everyone who dares to have any happiness at all. I understand that feeling perfectly.

    I lost my heart horse almost 6 years ago. There's not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I will always miss him, but I can now thank God for being blessed with him those 21 years instead of being angry that I no longer have him in my life.

    I lost my father almost 2 years ago, and my mother is getting ready to pass. The doctors give her 2 weeks at the outside. Oh yes, I understand loss.
         
        03-26-2013, 05:14 PM
      #27
    Banned
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    Originally Posted by Speed Racer    
    I understand the anger because that's one of the early stages of grief. That stage passes, but while you're in it you hate everyone who dares to have any happiness at all. I understand that feeling perfectly.

    I lost my heart horse almost 6 years ago. There's not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I will always miss him, but I can now thank God for being blessed with him those 21 years instead of being angry that I no longer have him in my life.

    I lost my father almost 2 years ago, and my mother is getting ready to pass. The doctors give her 2 weeks at the outside. Oh yes, I understand loss.
    I lost my dad in 2010, it was a fast but excruciatingly long three months of hell. I skipped the denial and the anger, it just didn't happen, and I went straight into acceptance. Needless to say I was the one who made all the arrangements. My sister on the other hand is still angry and in denial......I feel badly for her and hope she can come to accept what has happened

    Hugs Speed
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        04-16-2013, 03:58 PM
      #28
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Princess42    
    I hope this offends nobody as I really don't want anyone to feel offended or upset by this. However when you try and tell us you know how we feel after the death our horses we don't want to hear it. Your horse , might have passed away too but every situation is different and we really don't appreciate being told how we feel.

    Please don't be offended but stop acting like you know what we are going through and what our story is! It makes me so annoyed to see people do this.. Yes a little sympathy but stop telling us you know how feel and stuff, you can sign out of this forum and go back to normal life your not the one who has to get up every morning and live with your greatest friends death for the rest of your life!

    So please we beg for you to stop telling us how feel and pretending you know our story because you don't and we really don't want to hear it.

    Please don't be offended by this its not meant to offend anyone it is just the simple truth.

    This is aimed at people who haven't lost a horse! For the ones who have like me , I'm sorry you had to read this but you probably feel the same way I do about people telling us how feel.

    Once again please nobody be offended but just don't do it because it just makes our situation worse

    Thank you
    I'm a bit confused if this is aimed a people have not lost a horse why did you also say "Your horse , might have passed away too"?
         
        04-24-2013, 03:04 AM
      #29
    Weanling
    Doesnt matter if its a horse, a death of a loved one hurts just the same, everyone grieves differently, but the issue is the same *death*, I don't feel it is fair you can post this to ppl who havent lost a horse, they may have lost animal they loved most dearly, they may have lost care of their horse due to finanicial problems, it may not be a death but it is a loss, it hurts having to let go of your animal because you simply cannot afford to look after them, and it hurts greatly watcing your most loved animal go to another home as you cannot afford them, the regret, the feeling of letting them down, to me that hurts
         

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