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post #21 of 83 Old 06-03-2012, 04:56 PM
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I guess, when we look at life, we're all blessed to have had wonderful relationships, with our horses, dogs, and loved people.

Barry, I've posted this passage before, and it brings me great comfort.

Such is the wisdom of Solomon.

1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
9 What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboreth?
10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
12 I know that there is no good in them, but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life.
13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labor, it is the gift of God.
14 I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it, that men should fear before him.
15 That which hath been is now; and that which is to be hath already been; and God requireth that which is past.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
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post #22 of 83 Old 06-03-2012, 05:37 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss. She was very beautiful!

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post #23 of 83 Old 06-03-2012, 05:41 PM
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Someday I might be able to read your original post all the way through. I got to the end of the first sentence and could not read farther.

I am so sorry, unfortunatly I know the pain you are in now.
She was beautiful.
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post #24 of 83 Old 06-03-2012, 09:40 PM
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Oh Barry, my heart is breaking for you. The same experience is still so raw for me after putting my beloved Hugo, also a beautifully handsome, solid grey, to sleep after a long battle with soundness conditions.
I'm having a little cry for you now, and the emotions of when I had to make that call for Hugo have come rushing back, it feels as though your heart has broken in two, and the pieces have sunk to your feet. You can't think straight, and any mention of the fact bring through a fresh wave of tears no matter how hard you try to hold them back.
I think the feeling of having made that decision, to a beautiful and noble creature whom you called your best friend, is one of the biggest hurts you can experience.

From Australia, sending many thoughts your way. I hope the hole in your heart heals over time, but for now, try to think of all the wonderful times you shared with such a stunning creature like DiDi. You have made the best choice for her, many would not have had the strength of character to make the decision to lay their horse to rest before they begin to suffer terribly. When I did the same for Hugo, I thought for many weeks so much guilt, he was still so happy within himself. But waiting until his quality of life had diminished would have been too terrible to deal with.

Best regards Barry, look after yourself.

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post #25 of 83 Old 06-04-2012, 09:34 AM
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Barry, someone sent me this after I lost Conny, and I'm sharing it with you now. The last paragraph always chokes me up, but it's also very beautiful.

Crossing the Bridge

I stood beside your bed last night, I came to have a peep.

I could see that you were crying; you found it hard to sleep.

I whinnied to you softly as you brushed away a tear,

"It's me, I haven't left you. I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.

I want to reassure you that I'm not lying there.

I walked with you toward the house, as you fumbled for your key.

I put my head against you, nickered and said, "It's me."

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.

I tried so hard to let you know that I was standing there.

It's possible for me to be so near you everyday.

To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."

You sat there very quietly, then smiled; I think you knew.

In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,

I'll gallop across to greet you, and we'll stand there side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there's so much for you to see.

Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me

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Speed, that's a tear jerker that's for sure. It got to me.

It's a bank holiday over here. Locally there is a horsey event at which friends are competing. So I went along.

Amongst the hundred or so horses, I came across a beautiful grey cob of good conformation, well turned out, gentle by nature, ridden by a capable young female rider. Slowly I walked over to look more closely at the animal. I was able to speak to the rider for only a few minutes before I was reduced to tears
- yet again. I had to turn away and keep my distance.

This grieving is becoming a problem.
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post #27 of 83 Old 06-04-2012, 10:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Barry Godden View Post
This grieving is becoming a problem.
It gets easier with time, I promise. You've just lost her; you can't expect to be okay in such a short period of time.

Even now, almost 5 years after I laid my boy to rest, anytime I see a little bay Arabian gelding my heart always skips a beat or two.

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post #28 of 83 Old 06-04-2012, 11:24 AM
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The poem of the Rainbow Bridge gets me every single time. I am so sorry for your loss, Barry.
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post #29 of 83 Old 06-04-2012, 11:52 AM
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Barry I'm so terribly sorry she had to go this way. I know you did everything in your power to ease her pain and hopefully cure her. That's all we can do, it's out of love.
Don't be ashamed of the emotion, it's a testiment of your humanity. Like you said, something most others don't and could never understand. But it's yours, strong actually, and maybe misunderstood as frailty. I see it as strength.

Unless one goes through something like this it's hard to comprehend that one day this "animal" that outweighs us tenfold, with all the power and grace that we lack will actually die long before us. Mine have always seemed indestructible, only to be reminded how fragile their lives are in our hands, and how devastating when their lives are pulled from them.

Hugs from across the pond! Sincere love, thoughts, and prayers! It does not get better, but we do learn to appreciate the pain and cherish it in their remembrance. It's proof that we loved.
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post #30 of 83 Old 06-04-2012, 01:54 PM
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Barry, I'm so sorry for your loss. When you lose your heart animal it's like losing yourself. It will get better in time, though you will probably always have a pang when you think or speak of her. When I lost my Rottweiler, Hugo, to lung cancer and lupus I couldn't even see a picture of a Rottie without breaking down for 2 long years. It's now been 8 and I MIGHT be almost ready for another Rottie and able to accept that dog on its own without comparing it to my lost Hugo. Give yourself time to grieve, and with grief, it takes what it takes you can't rush it.

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