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post #41 of 83 Old 06-13-2012, 04:39 PM
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Barry I have only just seen this but I wanted to pass along my sincere condolences.

It is the business of absolutely no one when you move on. In fact I would argue that we never really move on and that hole in our hearts is never really filled. The pain does get less raw, and it is certainly possible to love other special animals, but it's always slightly different. I believe that every special animal has their own space in our hearts.

You are in my thoughts.
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ALEX, thank you for your thoughts,

The other five horses in my life, each of whom have now gone on before, were all geldings, My guess is that when she arrives up in their midst, she'll try to be the boss - as has been her way in life.
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It sounds like that's a safe bet Barry. :) Although I don't think there's too much to fight over in the never ending pasture.
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post #44 of 83 Old 06-15-2012, 09:39 PM
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When people say it's time to move on I think it's said with the greatest of kindness. They feel awkward and don't really know what to say.
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Barry, I have been offline for a few months, so I am just coming across this thread today.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful DiDi.
I hope that you are coping as well as you are able, and that the worst of the pain is starting to subside.
You are in my thoughts.
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Skip, she's gone. The days are a bit empty but I a very loathe to look for another horse, there's not enough time. At least she's not coughing any more. I am lucky to have known her. Barry G
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I am so so so very sorry for your loss. She was GORGEOUS, and she was one lucky horse to be loved so much. I wish you peace.
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A lifelog memory of a dressage Diva

Of all the photos I have of this horse, one very recently located comes to the fore and I shall be making a copy to hang on the wall in my lounge.

DiDi had just won 2nd place in the local area finals for a place in the Petplan nationals at Novice level.

The rosette of one of the other competitors lies on the ground and DiDI does a little shy. How the Countess stayed on, I'll never know.
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I lost my heart horse last year. I still haven't moved on. It's gotten better, sure, but I still miss her. Always will.

Barry, grief is a process. NO ONE can tell you how fast or how slow you should move through it. This mare obviously meant something to you, and some people just don't understand that they are not just animals.

Don't let anyone tell you that you should get over it, or that she was just a horse. I've never even met you and it is blatantly obvious that she meant much more to you than words can express.

I am deeply sorry for your loss. You have my prayers.


GOD'S FOAL
I'll lend you for a little while
My grandest foal, He said,
For you to love while she's alive
And mourn for when she's dead.

It may be one or twenty years,
Or days or months, you see.
But, will you, till I take her back,
Take care of her for me?

She'll bring her charms to gladden you,
And should her stay be brief,
You'll have treasured memories
To bring solace in your grief.

I cannot promise she will stay,
Since all from earth return.
But, there are lessons taught on earth
I want this foal to learn.

I've looked the wide world over
In my search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes
With trust I have selected you.

Now will you give her your total love,
Nor think the labour vain,
Nor hate Me when I come
To take her back again?

I know you'll give her tenderness
And love will bloom each day.
And for the happiness you've known
Forever grateful stay.

But should I come and call for her
Much sooner than you'd planned,
You'll brave the bitter grief that comes
And someday understand.
This poem brought me to tears.
Barry I can only imagine what you're going through. My heart goes out to you.
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QUOTE:

But should I come and call for her
Much sooner than you'd planned,
You'll brave the bitter grief that comes
And someday understand
.
UNQUOTE

Me,
No, sorry, I won't understand.
She didn't have my permission to go.
It wasn't her turn.
She has left too big a hole to fill.
I want her back
but I guess she won't be coming back.


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