Might get my 1sthorse back, suggestions advice please, very emotional and stressful
I spent all night crying and stressed out even though I know it wont help me really get what I need I just had to be emotional and Iam NOT an emotional person...
So my very first horse didnt work out for me at the time, I was 12-13 years old and just moved away from there I had been taking lessons (H/J) since the age of 4 with 3 lessons a week...I found a new trainer to work with and we started horse searching for my first horse. Looked at few here are there didnt match well. Then her friend offerd to sell us her 6 year old paint mare...we tried her out later that week....well I stayed on the mare was fiesty! Iloved it though as I had grown up on all the crazy jumper ponies cause I was so small andhada good seat. We agreed to take her on trail for 2 weeks and wound up buying her for 2500. The agreement with buyingher was made between my mom and trainer that I would get lessons to learn how to correctly ride nad work witha gren bigger horse (somthing I wasnt used to but was very much up to the challange) so it was agreed in writing and signed by parent and trainer that I would get 2 lessons a week and 1-2 trainer rides... it worked for the first couple of months and she was doing great. Then came show season, I was enrolled into 4H (should have not done that, looking back now) She was still too green and very senstive...mare with two blue eyes lol first I got dumped in the warm up ring cause she was to attached to my trainer and she had started to walk back to the trailer for somthing...so loose horse ran out all around the show grounds...caught her and told my trainer next time but that I just wanted to get back on inthe round pen and show her she was okaya nd I WAS getting back on...my poor mother saw the whole thing (freaked out alot about it too)
So we went back and worked on her confidance started trail riding more to get her out and about and feel okay....Fluke spook, freak accident couldnt see it coming.... but she spooked and botled and I wound up half way in a tree needing stiches to say the least.... By this time my lessons had merged into trail rides with the trainer not really working much of anything... so after having 4 stoches and hole in my leg and shatterd helmet my mom made the decsision to sell her...could sell her of course so she took her to another local trainer with means of training to sell or give her to that trainer....didnt work out...took her to a barn afew hours away that worked with troubled horses and sold them....she wound up sold in weeks time and back on little small VASHON ISLAND where I was....I remember seeing her for the first time cause I hadnt been allowed to saygood bye or see her period after the trail fall.....I was so upset she looked so mad and confused with this rider...I wasa mess hyper netalating....the people told me to come over nad I could pet her as soon as I did Tru put her head down and closed her eyes and just blew into my face as if to say its okay I forgive youa dn love you...I was wreck for weeks....she was later on sold to a pony club home and did fantasic....I was os happy to hear she was doing good in life and had a job (loves to jump) and had owners to care for her for commig years.
Well I recently came in contact with her owners (ponyclub home) They have had her for about 5 years and love her to death but are in debt and kid is leaving for college and so on and so on...
I have been trying my best for months to help fiond her a home (now she is 14) and still has alot to offer but is still sensitve and needs a mature rider with paitance and love.
Last night her owners emailed me begging for me to take, her willing to just give her to me...so we were already planning on moving to the country again as some of you know....and so now my search is driven by my mare...she is mine if I get place to live with some acreage. I have till fall and of course will still look for other homes for her but I would be so sad if somthing bad happend to her. My friend just had her first horse wind up in the kill pen and luckly her old trainer saw and saved her....I would die of a broken heart if this happend....
Anywyas suggestions nad advice are always welcome... This mare mens so much to me.... Her name is Tru Hugs and Kisses when I was little I would just hang off her neck with a huge hug and she would hug me back. Alot of scary falls happend with her but alotof bonding and connection happend too. I had her when I was in middle school being picked on and bullied and no friends Id come everyday after school to see her and ride and she was my olnly friend....
Pictures that are attached are of her iwth her owner now and she will send me more pictures of her today :)
I am planning on going to go see her soon and give her the biggest hig ever!
Geeeeezzzee I feel in the same position, I sold my paint gelding because at the time he was too much to handle (my first horse) and looking back years later everything he did it could have been fixed. I miss him and hope to find him someday. I feel like this is a great oppertunity to take her back (especially because they said you can have her for free), if you can afford having another (im not sure how many horses you have haha) horse and have fun ridding her etc
I'd suggest taking her back, and keeping her if you can afford it or finding her another home if that's what you want for her. Taking care of an older horse is a lot of work and providing a "forever home" is sometimes hard. We had to turn down the offer to take back our first horse because he was 20 years old and although in good shape we did not have a cheap place to keep him (fortunately the people who owned him found him an excellent home).
If you have the means, take the horse back, in the meantime keep looking for a home for her. Don't keep hoping that you'll find a place in time, this horse needs a home now. If you can swing it, when fall comes board her for a few months and keep trying to find a home for her and searching for a couple acres for yourself.
Thank you, I am really trying to have this work, many calls and emails already out to possiable places to move to. She is only 14 so not yet ready for retirment but if she were to come live with me she would be there for the rest of her life.
Here are some recent pictures of her, the one you can tell is from last summer with the tall grass she is eating :)