Okay okay okay last update I think for a bit. I think I've made my decision!! I REALLY like this Suffolk. I've talked to the lady about him and he's already started under saddle he just gets confused with leg cues but he's been ridden on trails before. Besides his weight problem he's everything I"m looking for.
My instructor can help me finish him off. He's got great ground manners minus that you can't walk him at the end of the lead rope or he tends to trail off (not that I would do that anyway?). He's not pushy at all and seems like a very sweet guy.
I'm currently in the process of trying to schedule a day to go out and see him in person. We'll see how it goes!!! It will be sometime next week most likely!