I will work on it. I am working with a trainer right now. As for the hands the trainer I am working with which is the person that has owned Beamer for the last 9 years instructed me to hold my hands down lower for now, don't ask me why. You can't see it in the pictures but I am not just holding the reins I was working them back and forth in a softer version of see-sawing as the trainer told me to do. The only transitions I can do are walk to trot and vice versa but I will work more with them, Beamer and I haven't worked up to canter yet.
I know the saddle isn't perfect but as you said it is something I can't control. I have to work with what I have.
Anyway thank you again for the crit, I will work on it as I ride her more, this was my third ride on her :]