Originally Posted by aldebono
Well your instructor yelling at you won't help you relax. Just let her know what you are going to do so she doesn't blow a gasket. Riding should be fun and lots of times silly and floppy. Does your instructor play games with the younger kids? Everyone loves games and it gets you more relaxed and to trust your horse.
Maybe push for a fun Christmas party where you dress up your horses and play games, you know, for the kids!
Yeah I'll ask her if she'd have a relaxing cantering game day or something. I trust the horse just I'm really tough on myself when it comes to riding. I want to get it "right" which is why I get stiff, leany, etc.
Thanks everyone for all of this advice :) I will be prepared for my riding lesson tomorrow!