Deserthorsewoman - So far I have only had one lesson with her and that was the one that this thread was started about. Right now we are working on getting me to understand John, the horse, and get comfortable riding him. I have never in my life been on a horse that is as sensitive as him. If I shift my weight even a teeny tiny bit to one side he will move to that side. Because of this I have to learn how to ride him and get comfortable with how he is trained. My horse doesn't respond to weight shift at all.
Tinyliny - What I meant by if you pull on the left rein he will go right is that he is trained to do that. Think of how a western horse is trained to neck rein. With them you put pressure or tension on the opposite rein that you want to go. I have never ridden an english horse that was trained this way. So what I mean by pulling on the left rein and then he goes right is because when he feels tension on the left rein he is trained to know that that means bend right. I hope that makes sense. It is all very confusing to me but his owner is my trainer and she knows exactly how he has been trained to ride cause she trained him this way.
I do know the difference between bracing and having contact :] I am just not used to having contact at all. My horse won't give to contact hardly at all so the tension on the reins when you have contact, not leaning just tension, is new to me. I do appreciate the critique, it is just super complicated with this horse for some reason. I know that riding him will really improve my skills but it is also hard I guess to try and do what people suggest when he has been trained in such an odd, to me anyway, way.