I informed him today that every time I ask him to ride a broke horse along on a ride with me and my 3 year old (so she isnt all by herself, I don't want to deal with a fit like that yet - not broke enough!) and he decides to nap on the couch instead, I am riding his horse English.
So nothing was ever planted in that? Ok, I will give you a tip, sit down in your saddle, now take your knees away from the side of the saddle. Ok, now move your legs as far back as they will go & drop your stirrups and lift your toes. Ride like that for a half hour a day. After a few weeks of that, make me a video.