No one "hates you or thinks you are tearing your horse's face off". What I said was that the way your horse rides is your responsibility. If you want to change it , and I personally, when asked to critique "this rider" , felt that it needed to be changed for the horse's happiness and soundness, then you must change the way YOU ride. The horse may be hot, may do this may do that but if you want to change it, you have to change you you ride.
Want the same? Do nothing.
No hate involved. As long as your rein contact is like it is and seat like it is, then she will go like she does.