Originally Posted by tinyliny
To add to MBP's great critique, I also see that you are ready to start influencing this Mare's way of going more.
She rarely bends to the inside, but when she does, one can see her offer to reach more forward and down. When you feel those "offereings" I would take the opportunity to move her into long and low for a few strides if she will keep it. She still has a lot of underneck muscle which indicates that she may look soft, but is still bracing internally against the rein. She also seems to hold back, kind of "mincing along" in her trot. If you can get her to reach down and forward , a lot, she probably will slow the rythm of the trot but extend the reach of reach stride. You can encourage this by putting some leg on to galvanize some energy, but keeping your posting speed unchanged, so if she zooms forward, she will come out of sync with your posting speed, and will naturally slow to match you.
Long and low, bend to the inside and more engagement in the trot, but not FASTER.
I commented on your videos a ways back and still say that you have a lot of potential to be a very nice rider!
Thanks for commenting again :) as I told MBP I seemed to have reached the point where I am stuck and I can't quite put into action what will make her soften :/ I am thinking I am not rewarding in time, so it is making the process rather difficult. Her trot is actually better sad to say, but like you said it is still "mincing" I am also having trouble there because just until recently I wasn't posting correctly (I was doing something funky and it was locking up her back end) so I am trying to get the feel of it myself. Thanks! I will try more bending.