At this point, I think it may be best just to be perfectly blunt with her. She isn't doing her horse any favors by hauling on her mouth all the time and because your friend doesn't know what she is doing, she is confusing the crap out of her horse. Maybe after you get a few more responses, you could show this thread to your friend and let her see for herself what some more experienced horse-people have to say.
She is trying to do way too much way before she is ready. I personally don't think she is ready to be beyond a trot because she doesn't know how to sit quietly on a horse. She has no sublety to her cues and a good rider should be very subtle. When I watch the video, all I see is flying arms and legs and yanking reins and no control. I don't mean that she doesn't have control of her horse (though even that is iffy), I mean that she doesn't have control of herself. She is trying to do barrels and jumping and all these other things when she doesn't understand the mechanics of what she is asking her horse to do and therefore doesn't understand when her horse is doing wrong. She would genuinely benefit from some beginning level lessons. Lessons that would slow her down and teach her to communicate with her horse without just pulling them around with the bit, kick to go, and yank to stop. She doesn't need to become a horse whisperer (it would help but isn't necessary), just needs to understand how to feel her horse. How to know when her horse is turning on her forequarters going around a barrel and how to get her back on her rear. That is something that needs to be learned before she ever starts on the pattern. It takes a good horseman to properly handle a barrel horse and keep them from becoming hot, flighty, and sour. She is on a quick route to ruining her horse. Unless she gets help now, there will be too much damage done to ever go back.
I can't show this thread to her,because she would never forgive me, and she would hate my guts.
Also, I told her that she should take lessons, but she says she can't afford them. I agree with everything you have said, she thinks she's good just because she can go fast. She doesnt really have any control, and she thinks she is good at jumping, because her horse flied over it at a gallop O.o
How do I go about telling her do you think? When she does something really bad or wrong, I could point it out, and explain.
But, she thinks she is better rider than me, when she def. Isnt, and she think she's such a know it all about horses. Whenever I try to correct her, she says "well everyone does it this way.." "My mom said..." "No your wrong.. because......" etc etc. And she ignores me for a day or two depending on what I said to her.
She has a 4 month old filly now, and she is not good with her either :(
When I was there, my friend was trying to get the filly up a rocky ledge thingy.. she went up it, and held onto the end of the lead rope and started yanking on it.
The foal got scared and started backing up. I told her that she is scaring her, and she doesnt understand. I took the lead rope and I stroked the foal on the neck, and comforted her, then I slowly urged her forward by walking with her. When she was hesitant, my friend went behind her, and starting heaving on her butt. Like lifting it in the air! The foal freaked out and tried to kick her.
Then, she lunged forwards up the ledge. She was freaking out after that and spooking lots. I tried to comfort her.. poor girl :(
Then, on the cement road, she started cantering her! She ran beside her as she cantered, like the entire way down the road. When I walked her, my friend came running behind her, and the filly went nuts again. OMG.
Also, her foal has lumps and bumps everywhere on her, when you pet her on her back or on her chest, she groans. Her back is like straight, she has horrible conformation. Her neck is very ewed and looks like a lhama :P
But, anways I think she is going to ruin that poor filly.. and her mare.
Her mare, was awesome when she first got her! Now, she is starting to rear, she wont stop, and she spooks easily.
Its really saddening, my friend has sold 5 horses in the past 2 yrs, because of them being "bad".
Sorry for the long rant, she just ticks me off sometimes.