Please critique riding! (really bad!?)

She does need to be waken up. And, I know I am the one who is gonna have to do it. I have been dreading the day that I blow my top on her. I have been holding it all in for so long, and going along with what she says... but I know that its gonna happen soon, I have almost blown a couple times already, but I saved myself. I really dont want my friend or her animals to get hurt, and I am extremely surprised she hasnt gotten seriously hurt yet. But its bound to happen.
She only has a mom, and her mom is almost exactly like her. When I tell her to stop making up stuff, she says "I never do that...", and she always has an excuse for everything. I always dont have something to say back, and she always wins.
I think she should sell her foal, as she is gonna turn into a monster when she's older, and noone is gonna want her :( poor little baby
My parents said that they would talk to my friend.. maybe I could get them to talk to her mom, as it would be awkward for my parents to be talking to her.
When would be a good time to talk to my friend about everything? On facebook, on the phone, at her house, at the horses...?
When I am in person, I can never think of what to say.. but on facebook or phone, it is alot easier to think of a response.
Thanks for your help, you are extremely helpful :)

I personally think it would be better to do it to her face, either at one of your houses or when you are with the horses. Believe me, it will not be easy but the best way to do it is just to take a deep breath and tell her EXACTLY how you feel. It may or may not work and she may go away not ever wanting to speak to you again but I think you would feel better knowing that you did everything you could. Having your parents talk to her mom is a good idea.

so as others have said she is out of control ... I am not sure what you are looking for in this thread if you don't want to talk to her. I know it may be hard but if you feel like what she is doing is wrong then you need to tell her. Maybe you can talk to you mom and see what advice she has- even though I am 25 I still value my mom's opinion

I guess I don't really have anything of much value to say. That horse is amazing. That girl is up there flopping and kicking and yanking and that horse is doing what she is trained to do. Her job. That horse is being ruined. The girl is not using leg cues WHATSOEVER and instead is approaching her horse and yanking it around a barrel. A horse should be properly set up at an approach to a barrel with the inside shoulder up and the nose tilted towards the inside. You should never have to yank a horse around a barrel. If the horse is ready to be running barrels you should have to do nothing more than lean your weight and transfer your reins across the neck. I found the video disgusting. The worst part about it was that whoever was taping her as she rounded the barrel sounded like they were encouraging her and telling her she was doing a good job. I think in this instance the problem lies less with the ignorant little girl and more with the ignorant parents. Someones going to end up getting hurt.

Nope I'm not friends with that girl anymore.Due to her lies and starting trouble,Her mom (grandma) sent her to an all girls boarding school.I'm glad shes there because she was spiraling out of control and needed to be stopped.But before that happened we got into an argument about her mare.She was going to BREED the mare to a young stallion sickle hocked mixed breed stallion.She said that pregnancy in mares changes their attitude. And thats when I told her off lol.Luckily she never got the chance to breed her.

Just like your friend she didn't believe she was doing anything wrong.

Wow, is she riding with no shoes alot of the times. She is really hard on her horse she pulls and yanks alot and really relies on her reins too much. I never ride without proper riding gear ( helmet,boots, breeches or jeans)

I have to disagree with many of the posts regarding the rider coming to reality. To me she looks like an uneduacated rider, or someone that has learned from watching others but she has a very good seat and appears to be very stable. With a little bit of proper training she could be really talented. And to me in the videos and pix, I see nothing but affection for the horse. She's rough with her hands and her stirrups are too long but other then that I'm not sad with what I see.

^ That's what I thought!

I agree with smrobs. The whole thing was really sloppy and she's being way too heavy on the reins. She needs to shorten her stirrups 2-3 holes and learn to get her heels down and sit quietly. All she did the whole time was yank the horse around on her forehand. She needs to sit back and focus more on seat and leg aids. She also needs to go back to walk/trot lessons. And maybe find some appropriate attire. ;)

I saw take away all of her tack and put a helmet and riding BOOTS on her feet and see how she does then. I know that probably doesnt sounds very safe (the no tack part), but it helped me. I have always been super light with my hands, but there was a time that I got kinda heavy. I just did no tack for about 6-9 months and my riding got very secure and my hands were pretty good. Plus it helps balance.

Have you tried talking her into just letting you lunge her and you helping her with her position?