Advice: friend too heavy for horse - Page 6
 
 

       The Horse Forum > Riding Horses > Horse Riding

Advice: friend too heavy for horse

This is a discussion on Advice: friend too heavy for horse within the Horse Riding forums, part of the Riding Horses category
  • Tips on horseback riding being too fat

Like Tree132Likes

 
LinkBack Thread Tools
    02-22-2013, 01:24 AM
  #51
Foal
Yeah. Using a mounting block is easier on horses backs. And it's no judge of whether someone can ride or not. There's plenty of people who can't ground mount for various reason and weigh much less than me. I'm basically 300 lbs and I can ground mount into my western saddle (never tried it in my english) onto a 15.3 hand horse. I only did it like twice awhile ago and would not do it again near this weight unless there was a really good reason to. Being able to do it doesn't mean I should.

It doesn't matter what size you are. You aren't picking on her for her weight or telling her what she needs to be doing/eating/exercising. It's about the health and safety of the horse. The general idea- "I'm sorry friend, but due to horse's condition (sore back and everything else you've mentioned) I need to limit the rider weight she carries for her continued health. I know this means that you will no longer be able to ride her at this time, but I'm setting a strict weight limit of "blank" lbs including tack, which is 20% of her weight. No one, including myself if it came to it, will be riding her over "blank" lbs............."
Posted via Mobile Device
Golden Horse likes this.
     
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
    02-22-2013, 02:21 AM
  #52
Started
Posted via Mobile Device
     
    02-22-2013, 02:28 AM
  #53
Started
I have a very heavy friend. 400+ and he's the most honest person I've ever met. He knows a lot about horses and I'd never be worried to leave mine under his care. But, he fully understands his weight. He plays softball and plays trumpet in a local band. He's just heavy. He knows right off I don't have a good ride for him. But he has drivin the kids go kart! Honesty, honesty,honesty. I don't know anyone who's ever felt bad about telling the truth.
Posted via Mobile Device
     
    02-22-2013, 03:00 AM
  #54
Green Broke
Actually, I have yet to see the majority of fat people realize just how fat they are, and most of them get rabid if you point out that they need to lose weight.

Tell her the truth, and don't sugar coat it.
     
    02-22-2013, 11:05 AM
  #55
Trained
Quote:
Originally Posted by Palomine    
Actually, I have yet to see the majority of fat people realize just how fat they are, and most of them get rabid if you point out that they need to lose weight.

Tell her the truth, and don't sugar coat it.
Mmmmm you know friends do try and deliver hard messages in a sugar coat, that's why they are friends, not random internet people with a grudge against fat people.

I KNOW how fat I am, I can see the pics, and you know if you came up randomly and told me I need to lose weight I would go totally ape **** on you.

From your previous post on this subject

Quote:
I too have an issue with heavier people riding and not considering the horse and its well being.

The area where the saddle/rider rests is NOT supported by the legs, it is suspended between the legs. Same as if I sat on a table in the middle. It is not going to be as strong in that area.

And seriously, when you have hospitals having to order extra heavy duty wheelchairs, AND hospital beds and gurneys, and operating tables because they have had them break/collapse and topple due to the weight of the patients, how can you not wonder about the effect on a horse?

Same with furniture companies for that matter. And toilet companies too make toilets now for people who weigh more.

Like it or not, the weight any of us carry, and I include myself in this too, makes us have a different balance, riding position, as well as causes problems with a horse. I don't care how good your balance is, or your riding is. That extra weight does take a toll.

And when recent issues of all the horse mags have had information on this, then why try and say it is an old rule.

Rather, it is because no one really wants to admit what they look like, and the damage they are causing to their horse, not to mention themselves.

And taking about saddle fitting? Why is it for so many the principles of saddle fit go out the window when they are overweight?

Many trail riding operations and packing operations too are having to look for horses with much bigger bone structure, and having to look into larger saddles because of the weights of the people wanting to ride.

And too many times I see seriously overweight riders, and not talking about just a little too much poundage, but horribly overweight, riding an obviously miserable horse, determined to "post" when what they are really doing is hauling themselves up out of the saddle off the horse's mouth. Then you need to realistically reassess your riding.
It is clear that you don't like fat people, so maybe you should stay away from us, maybe it's catching you know
Tasia, LynnF, callidorre and 7 others like this.
     
    02-22-2013, 12:00 PM
  #56
Yearling
I've only skimmed through this, but I feel I can/should comment as a heavy rider myself.

I always dread that my weight will negatively impact on a horse. In fact, only recently my friends had to work hard to convince me to have a short walk/trot ride on one of their horses, a 14-15HH Quarter Pony because I kept insisting that I would squash him (which proves, by 'the majority of fat people realize just how fat they are, and most of them get rabid if you point out that they need to lose weight.' that I'm in the minority!).

OP, if you are unsure about being direct, bring up your mares health problems. Say that you're worried about her health and that you want to cut her back to light riding.

But 'direct' would be best. It all really depends on how she feels about her weight. Me, someone could come out and tell me I'm too fat and I wouldn't really give a **** (though it wasn't the case a few years ago). But if she is sensitive, you will need to be careful. I'd say definitely still let her do groundwork, as it could also make good exercise for her to help her out a little.

It's a shame that you are at such a good weight yourself really, as I know that I am currently in a good place as I have a friend that would like to lose some weight, so she and I are working together to shift the kilos. Just an idea though, depending on how fit she is (because fit and fat aren't always polar opposites), maybe see if she wants to go trail riding on foot, as in you ride and she walks. Compan can really help motivate exercise.
     
    02-22-2013, 01:41 PM
  #57
Weanling
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tracer    
It's a shame that you are at such a good weight yourself really, as I know that I am currently in a good place as I have a friend that would like to lose some weight, so she and I are working together to shift the kilos. Just an idea though, depending on how fit she is (because fit and fat aren't always polar opposites), maybe see if she wants to go trail riding on foot, as in you ride and she walks. Compan can really help motivate exercise.
I like Tracer's response. This is a tough situation, but if you have to tell her that she cannot ride until she's a more manageable size for your horse, then offer to help her lose some pounds. Maybe the companionship she feels with you is just as attractive as being with a horse?

Personally, I think you should say something, but don't just close the door permanently. Offer her some encouragement.
     
    02-23-2013, 07:57 AM
  #58
Yearling
Quote:
Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
It is clear that you don't like fat people, so maybe you should stay away from us, maybe it's catching you know
I LOL'd (thinks on this a bit)

and I'm old too and know for a fact that everyone around me is getting old too!!! GAHHHH it really is contagious!

To the OP, I know it's a hard thing to do but it really is the best thing for both the horse and your friend. I'd offer to do some ground work with both the horse and your friend. Heck, if you have an arena with sand walking both the horse and your buddy is good non-stressful conditioning!
Golden Horse likes this.
     
    02-23-2013, 11:44 AM
  #59
Trained
Quote:
Originally Posted by DimSum    
I LOL'd (thinks on this a bit)

and I'm old too and know for a fact that everyone around me is getting old too!!! GAHHHH it really is contagious!
Hell, I'm off to find a bunch of super models to hang out with just in case
DimSum and redpony like this.
     
    02-23-2013, 12:40 PM
  #60
Showing
Just thought of something.....a change of direction. Get her interested in driving. She can help with buying the harness and a cart. Horses take to driving (pulling) like ducks to water. In order to use your horse she has to provide full care when she's out, everything you would be doing, feeding, stall mucking, bedding, picking hooves, etc. The exercise will help tone her muscles. Of course she will have to walk behind the horse to teach him the preliminaries before he's hooked up to the cart.
boots and Dustbunny like this.
     

Quick Reply
Please help keep the Horse Forum enjoyable by reporting rude posts.
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.


Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Friend's gelding is out for blood! Advice? QHGirl Horse Talk 11 11-12-2012 12:18 AM
Advice needed on horse & friend issue Britt Horse Talk 22 08-15-2012 04:12 PM
eek advice for a friend? MariHxc Horse Training 3 04-24-2007 11:35 PM



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 02:37 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.5
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0