Here's an update. We met today and I told her she wouldn't be riding Breezie, that I'm putting her on light duty but that we have a bunch of other stuff we can do. I explained everything with her issues and weight limitations and she took it rather well, and I think I didn't a pretty good job of letting her know it was mostly due to the horse's condition and size. We got to talking with another boarder, who has very fit, healthy, bigger horses and he invited me to go trail riding at this camp/trail head, and he turned to her and asked her if she had a horse. She said no, and he said "well, then, you can ride one of mine" she got so happy, I thought she was going to cry. Until then, we're going to be ground driving, lunging, and a bunch of other stuff. We went over anatomy today, and lunged another horse in the round pen. She got to go out and hang out with horses in the pasture, and she was loving it. So much has been going wrong in her life lately, her cat passed away, which might not seem like such a huge deal, but this cat was her baby, she loved him, and he was diagnosed with cancer and passed away in a period of a couple months, she just found out her boyfriend is seeing someone else, all of her family lives in England. I do think that me telling her she couldn't ride my horse was a blow to her self esteem, even if she wasn't showing it. We did a lot of talking today, and at one point she was just so down on herself and I said "you know, the world is going to knock you down more times than you'd care to count, so don't do it to yourself" we set up a time for her to come out every week and get her pony fix and work with horses. She was in such a great mood when she left. All in all, I think it went well, it was still really hard, but I'm glad it went the way it did.