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post #11 of 31 Old 11-13-2012, 08:51 PM
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Evil horse of doom---I appreciate your candor and that does not sound weird at all. It sounds normal to me lol. I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like you have come a long way on our own. Do you have any support?
Thank you. I was working with a therapist on my anxiety issues last year but mostly it's been on my own. Horses are wonderful at snapping one out of anxiety moments I find.

OP, I wish you all the best in your endeavours to ride without dutch courage - I'm the same when it comes to social situations (which I find far more scary than riding a crazy horse!). Just remember, baby steps. When you have an anxious thought, try stepping "out" of yourself and analyse the thought rationally - that's what my therapist told me and it really helped. Reward every little achievement you have, talk to yourself while you're going about it to remain calm (might make you look crazy but it's actually really good at settling nerves).

Also, try singing something while you ride - something long and slow and balladic is best, where you have to concentrate on the lyrics and remember the next verse.

Good luck! And please, if you wish to, share your journey with us!

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post #12 of 31 Old 11-13-2012, 08:54 PM
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Take some lessons with the calm, encouraging trainer. It'll help you to believe in yourself and overcome the fear of getting on horse.
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post #13 of 31 Old 11-13-2012, 09:03 PM
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I too suffer from Anxiety. I take medication for it and just recently started counseling along with it to learn how to break bad habbits and gain tools. In the past I would do as EHOD stated and have bouts of binge drinking to "relax" or "self medicate". Well, I should have learned a long time ago that I cannot drink. I may be able to get away with moderate drinking for a few times but I ALWAYS would end up back where I didn't want to be. Soooooooooooooo, yes, I am an alcoholic. How do I cope, I don't touch the stuff. Like EHOD I do get the thought some times of how nice it would be to settle the nerves. I never needed it to ride tho. Actually that would make me feel weird but just in regular life and stress, its not a good combo for me. Anyway, if I can help in any way, just let me know! And congrats to you on your BIG step!!!

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I second what Kitten_Val says,

The calm 1/2 dead acting lesson horse is the best thing to build confidence, just make sure to find a calm trainer.

6 months worth of lessons can really change a person from "i can ride a horse" to a confident rider
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post #15 of 31 Old 11-13-2012, 09:10 PM
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I had a quick look at your past posts and it deffinately sounds like your boy isn't the easiest.
I'd maybe try focussing on some ground work with him get some respect and hopefully that wont worry you as much. If someone has a plodder you can ride that won't stress you even better. Then when your ready hop back on but wait till you're ready
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I had a quick look at your past posts and it deffinately sounds like your boy isn't the easiest.
I'd maybe try focussing on some ground work with him get some respect and hopefully that wont worry you as much. If someone has a plodder you can ride that won't stress you even better. Then when your ready hop back on but wait till you're ready
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post #17 of 31 Old 11-15-2012, 10:54 AM
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I'm sorry to hear you're struggling with this... but you can do it! I have faith in you.

I'm not an alcoholic, but I am very familiar with addiction. My best advice, which is not horse-related, is to seek a licensed counselor to help you work through your dependency and offer you the support you need. It's so incredibly difficult to fight addiction on your own, and if you simply try to white-knuckle it, you may find it hard to really leave it in your past.

Your fear of riding without alcohol is just another side issue, and I think a good counselor can help you with this as well. Other people have offered good advice as well about finding an easier horse to build confidence on.

Best of luck to you. If you ever need someone to chat with, whether about addiction or horses or any combination of the two, I'm just a PM away. You will never find judgment from me.
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I am 23 an alcoholic. I'm a very stubborn person so it took me until I hit my rock bottom and lost EVERYTHING even the clothes on my back for me to realize I had a problem. I started AA in December 2011 and have been sober since =) I'm glad your trying to reach out for help because support is always a must. You CAN do it!!
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I am not an alcoholic but have had some life experiences with it. My mother in law was an alcoholic. It's not easy to overcome but can be done. She was sober aside from one time falling off the wagon the entire time I knew her. She became very involved in her church and that seemed to be a huge help for her. At her funeral we found out more about that part of her life than we knew, she didn't talk about it much. My hubby was approached by a couple of women that asked if they could speak at the service. When they got up to talk they shared that they were alcoholics and that my mother in law saved them by starting a "Came to Believe" meeting and helped them find faith & sobriety. It was extremely touching.

Be strong, you can do it. There are always willing ears here, mine included. Feel free to pm me anytime.

As far as the horse side of things goes, like Val suggested I would urge you to find a trainer that you can work through the anxiety with. One that is experienced in helping riders rebuild confidence.

Life is like a camera. Focus on what's important, Capture the good times, Develop from the negatives and if things don't work out, Take another shot.
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I don't drink per se but if I were to attempt to play piano with one person in attendance I would need a stiff shot to quell the shakes. I'm cool as a cucumber at a show when so many others are falling apart with bad nerves, yet can't play with anyone listening. Consequently, my playing is for my own enjoyment.
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