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post #21 of 31 Old 11-16-2012, 05:23 AM
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Seriously, way to go in recognizing the problem!

I'm going to assume, like all of us, that you love your horse dearly. And this might help you, on the days where its tough to not drink and get on your horse, think about how its not fair to your horse. That your horse does everything you ask, and you've never been honest and open with them. Horses are such good therapy, talk to them, honestly, as stupid as that sounds, sit down and tell them that your afraid, and it will really relax you, to just get that out there. Horses are impossible to lie to, and they deserve everything we have!
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would love to hear about others in this forums by pm about their struggles with anxiety, irrational thoughts, fears, false feelings, ect, like many of you I drink to self medicate, and have been thru multiple medications to no avail, my mind did the unthinkable in that in trying to cope with the severe anxiety, it came up with defense mechanisms and emotional reactions to negate it which then leads to me thinking I actually enjoy the thoughts, and emotions, and false feelings, anyone else out there dealt with this?
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would love to hear about others in this forums by pm about their struggles with anxiety, irrational thoughts, fears, false feelings, ect, like many of you I drink to self medicate, and have been thru multiple medications to no avail, my mind did the unthinkable in that in trying to cope with the severe anxiety, it came up with defense mechanisms and emotional reactions to negate it which then leads to me thinking I actually enjoy the thoughts, and emotions, and false feelings, anyone else out there dealt with this?
I am the anxiety queen, pm me any time,

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post #24 of 31 Old 11-16-2012, 10:49 AM
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I know this is a strange post, but I am trying to stop drinking and realizing that I am scared to death to ride my horse without it. I know this is a long shot, but I thought it would be worth trying. Alcohol afforded me the bravery I needed to get on my horse and take control. I wasn't afraid of falling or anything else, but now I am. Anyone else relate out there?
Hberrie, kudos to you for recognizing a problem and not falling apart over it! I know too many drinkers who are adamant that they are innocent victims of the big bad liquor and have trouble accepting accountability.

More tools in your riding toolbox will help. Learn how to fall. Learn how to tuck and roll/tumble. Maybe you can get a friend who has se kind of gymnastics or cheer leading in the background. Or practice on your own and build the muscle memory. It will help to lessen injury if you can manage to help yourself. Additionally, work with a riding trainer and ask to be taught things like one rein stops and how to ride a spook and how to emergency dismount. Riding hard turns is handy - ask a barrel racer friend for tips.
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post #25 of 31 Old 11-16-2012, 11:47 AM
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I have many in my family. there are organizations out there to help you. I think te biggest step is realizing you have a problem and choosing to adress it.

Right now, instead of learning to cope, you are using alcahol as a crutch. Learning to mentally cope with your fears is a tough thing, but it will help you in every aspect of life, and will be a valuable tool in the future

I have been in the possition of being shaking scared just to get on my horse, just take it one day at a time.
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post #26 of 31 Old 11-18-2012, 01:53 AM
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Hberrie, kudos to you for recognizing a problem and not falling apart over it! I know too many drinkers who are adamant that they are innocent victims of the big bad liquor and have trouble accepting accountability.

More tools in your riding toolbox will help. Learn how to fall. Learn how to tuck and roll/tumble. Maybe you can get a friend who has se kind of gymnastics or cheer leading in the background. Or practice on your own and build the muscle memory. It will help to lessen injury if you can manage to help yourself. Additionally, work with a riding trainer and ask to be taught things like one rein stops and how to ride a spook and how to emergency dismount. Riding hard turns is handy - ask a barrel racer friend for tips.
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Cannot agree more, DA. Learning how to fall is a fantastic thing, I taught myself just "falling" off furniture (not sure my mum was too keen on this!). Something that isn't brought into riding lessons enough IMO - I see so many otherwise very good riders breaking wrists, arms, collarbones etc because they don't know how to fall and stick their hand out - or they come off stiff as a board and I'm cringing and hoping they don't land headfirst!

It's a great confidence-booster to know that even if everything goes awry you're not very likely to get badly hurt. Of course, injuries still can happen no matter what you do, but to date (even with riding Brock the bucking bronco and lots of crazy spooky/bolter TBs) my worst injury is still a broken toe from my foot not coming out of the stirrup properly when I came off. Which considering I've been sent flying heaps of times is pretty reassuring

And the one rein stop is invaluable. Knowing you can deal with something before it becomes a problem is very reassuring.

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Hberrie, kudos to you for recognizing a problem and not falling apart over it! I know too many drinkers who are adamant that they are innocent victims of the big bad liquor and have trouble accepting accountability.

More tools in your riding toolbox will help. Learn how to fall. Learn how to tuck and roll/tumble. Maybe you can get a friend who has se kind of gymnastics or cheer leading in the background. Or practice on your own and build the muscle memory. It will help to lessen injury if you can manage to help yourself. Additionally, work with a riding trainer and ask to be taught things like one rein stops and how to ride a spook and how to emergency dismount. Riding hard turns is handy - ask a barrel racer friend for tips.
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Believe it or not but martial arts classes is a good place to learn how to fall. Since getting tossed around is part of the sport they teach you how to fall first.
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post #28 of 31 Old 11-18-2012, 03:20 PM
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Thank you all fo your responses and encouragement. I didn't really expect to get any.
I am guessing alot of things beside riding are more intimidating with out drinking. I used to be hell on wheels riding a snowmobile and I was much more couragous after a few drinks. Thats why they call it a shot of courage. Take baby steps and ride were you are most comfortable and under control.
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post #29 of 31 Old 11-22-2012, 06:21 PM
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You are a lot more apt to actually fall off of your horse if you are drinking.
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post #30 of 31 Old 11-24-2012, 02:47 AM
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I know this is a strange post, but I am trying to stop drinking and realizing that I am scared to death to ride my horse without it. ...........
You have taken a really big/good step by admitting it to yourself. You have also taken a HUGE and difficult step by acknowledging it publicly.

I know it's easy for me to say, but please remember: it's not how many times you fall, but how many times you get up! Keep your eyes on the prize and don't ever give up!!!

The fear that has crept into your riding experience is, I suspect, quite unnerving. However, you can beat it! Riding stone sober may be a difficult thing, but it won't always be.

I remember watching an interview with a famous rock and roll singer who literally couldn't remember what it was like to perform while sober. However, he had gotten to a place in his life where he HAD to get sober or "slip off the edge" and wind up in deep trouble..... What really stuck with me about the interview was that after he succeeded in totally kicking alcohol, he was scared and totally unnerved at the thought of performing sober. However, he worked through it and ultimately beat the fear.

You can do it. And I'm telling you now, and I mean it: I will pray for you to specifically work through and get totally past this fear. DO NOT GIVE UP! You will look back at some point and will be so glad that you did not give up....

...so a horse walks into a bar and the bar tender says "why the long face?"...
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