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        03-27-2011, 02:07 PM
      #11
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Palomino Brigade    
    Ugh. My dad used to work at his dad's racing stable in California, and he bought Ray for me and all, but doesn't care about how high I got him to jump or what cool tricks I taught him. My mom never has been a horse person... especially since that time when she was little and her brother's horse pulled their porch across their yard... O.o But I feel like the only people who care to help me, etc. are my 2 neighbors. One used to be a riding instructor, but retired, and one used to show in some major eventing classes with her polish arabs, but they all retired. That's where I got my old tack set and the dream of jumping. And that's where my 'arena' is. (Fenced in and flat pasture. That's it.)
    :) Good luck getting them to see your side.
    haha thanks! You 2 !!
    It's weird parents tell you to follow your dream and all that suff and not let anyone take it away but somtimes it feels like they are and the worst part if they really want to they can :S
         
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        03-27-2011, 02:11 PM
      #12
    Foal
    I feel you! I'm 19 and in college, but I commute from home, and I hear it all the time. My mother just thinks of a million reasons why I shouldn't do it (expenses, dangers, etc) but I don't care :) Really, I don't mind her not being too involved (she's the sort of person who's never been on a horse but will still criticize) as long as I still get to ride!
         
        03-27-2011, 03:47 PM
      #13
    Weanling
    Same with me really =/ Some days my mother is all like 'Oh I should come out and see Lola sometime, I have not seen her in ages!'

    Next day..'You are out there way to much! I am getting rid of that horse! I should not have bought it at all!'

    Lol it is very annoying but when she acts like that I get really stubborn and stay out longer =/
         
        03-27-2011, 03:58 PM
      #14
    Weanling
    I suppose I'm very lucky. My parents aren't horse people, but they try their best to see things from my perspective. I never had a horse and was told I never would. They would pay for riding lessons when they could afford it, and I would work for neighbors until my 15th christmas when my Dad's friend convinced them and they got me my Samone. We boarded her with that friend at their house for a year, until we brought her home. We weren't going to get another one, but Sam wouldn't stop pacing and being ancy...now we have 3 lol!! My parents aren't like I said "horse people" but my dad will ride once in a while. My mom is terrified to ride do to an accident on one she had in the mountains- she'll feed them though and stuff if i'm not home. But I never stop hearing the nagging about how dangerous it is, and I should be careful and such....luckily they trust me more now since they've seen me on bucking horses and everthing else and know I can hold my own. And I also never stop hearing about how expensive it is...I usually pay for all my own feed and such, but with no regular job, sometimes I come up short and they have to help. My mom doesn't care, but my dad is a penny pincher lol. Gotta love them!
         
        03-29-2011, 09:26 PM
      #15
    Foal
    Careful, if you choose a career/education in horses it gets WAY worse lol. My mom was scraped off by a few barn sour horses, and my dad just doesn't care. It was like pulling teeth to get them to even come to my first show! I rode for four years in high school and then decided to go to college for Equine Science, and BOY did I hear about it for months and months. The only reason they 'let' me go to school for it was if I got a business minor as something to fall back on 'in case it doesn't work out.' I'm now graduating this may, but my mom called me just last week to say that my cousin could get me a job in agriculture business and that I could just 'own horses on the side.' Uhh....kind of too late for that I think! Haha. Since I'm paying my own way through school, I decided to thank them for their advice, but do what I wanted! :) Just keep following their passion, even if they don't get it (and maybe they never will) they'll see how happy it makes you and accept it someday.
         
        03-29-2011, 10:48 PM
      #16
    Green Broke
    I'm not a young person by any means but I can still relate. Parents should be happy their kids are into horses, there's so many other things they could be doing, like boys, drugs, sneaky stuff.
    Horses teach so much. Independence, empathy, teamwork, compassion, goal setting, accepting failure with a positve 'try again' attitude, prioritizing, time & money management, trouble shooting & yes, sadly, dealing with loss. Proably many other things also, things you won't learn hanging out with friends at a mall.
    Parents don't have to share the passion but they should understand it is a passion very important to their children that most likely will be with them for life.

    My boyfriends mother was approaching her 90's & had ridden Saddlebreds as a young girl. She gave it up to raise her family. She had no regrets about that but always talked about those riding times. One day we literally hoisted her on a horse, replaced hips & all. I warned her that her hips may give out & she could end up in an ambulance. She said "That's OK, I'll smile all the way to the hospital."
    She picked up the reins & after a few unsteady steps the 70 +years since she had last been on a horse were washed away. She said she felt young, strong & whole again.
    Later we gave her a buggy ride pulled by a Saddlebred. To the day she passed on she talked about those rides.
    The passion never dies.

    Sorry about the long post.
         
        03-29-2011, 11:46 PM
      #17
    Weanling
    I have never had that problem. They know I have been waiting to get a horse for 10 years. They are always happy when I spend more that 1 hour or more with my ponies. If I don't, they actually get mad at me lol.
         
        03-30-2011, 02:19 AM
      #18
    Yearling
    I have a mom that's trying to get me to get rid of mine right now. I see her point as I am a college student and money is a little tight for me, but I can afford it and getting 'rid' of him isn't an option even if I wanted to. I spend too much time with the horses, he'll make my grades drop, too much of a hassle......it goes on.

    My dad supports it, as he got me into lessons and got me my horses. But sense he is roughly 800 miles away I hear a lot more from my mom.
         
        03-30-2011, 03:02 AM
      #19
    pep
    Foal
    I tottaly understand how you feel! Maybe your parents are concerned that you willl get hurt though-i know mine get worried sometimes. Yes they let me ride and get me the gear I need but my mom always says im not getting anywhere which im not because you can't jump high on school horses. And she just doesnt understand that I need a horse of my own- I've found one for a price that we can afford and a barn that we can afford. Try talk to ur parents and ask why they don't support and help you.
         
        03-30-2011, 03:07 AM
      #20
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Horsesdontlie    
    I have a mom that's trying to get me to get rid of mine right now. I see her point as I am a college student and money is a little tight for me, but I can afford it and getting 'rid' of him isn't an option even if I wanted to. I spend too much time with the horses, he'll make my grades drop, too much of a hassle......it goes on.

    My dad supports it, as he got me into lessons and got me my horses. But sense he is roughly 800 miles away I hear a lot more from my mom.
    Tell your Mom you don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering what happened to your horse. I see so many ads selling a horse because someone is going to college & some ads for people trying to find a horse they had to let go. So sad.
    I'm boarding a horse here for a young person who went to college. I don't charge her & I pay all his expenses. She would have been heart broken to let him go. Her peace of mind is important to me & I'm not her Mother.
         

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