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post #21 of 25 Old 12-02-2010, 10:10 PM
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I have that problem when it comes to bareback riding. I used to be very comfortable with it at a walk until at my first show we were doing ride a buck and had to trot bareback which was my first time doing that. My horse ended up dumping me on some ground poles and i was terrified to get back on. It was almost a year before i got back on a horsebare back. It was on the smallest horse there and i held on so tight my knuckles turned white. So whenever i ride her i get on bareback and i can finally do a little trot now but im still to scared to get on other horses bareback.
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post #22 of 25 Old 12-07-2010, 09:37 PM Thread Starter
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It's sort of nice to see that this is a pretty common situation for a lot of us. It seems like I need to push myself to ride even if I may not feel like it at the time. I have noticed that the more I ride, the more I want to ride. My horse isn't the problem, because he's a real sweetheart. Previous horses maybe. My horsie grandmother who raised me was of the belief that you get a horse that is too much for you (so I did) and you just learn to ride it. Aaaagh! Maybe that would work for certain people but...
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post #23 of 25 Old 12-09-2010, 12:47 AM
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I think the best way to feel more confident is to just ride, period. Is anyone you know willing to maybe control the lounge while your riding so you'll feel more comfortable? Or someone that can ride your horse before you get on to get out all the grouchiness out?

And remember, there is absolutely no reason to push yourself too fast. Get to the point where you feel totally confident trotting your horse, no matter how long it takes, and then maybe progress to doing a couple stride of canter.

Horseback riding should be fun, never push yourself past the point where it's not.
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post #24 of 25 Old 12-10-2010, 09:59 AM
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I so understand your problem. I used to ride bareback as a teenager, floating along on my sweet little mare...galloping, loping...whatever. She was an angel. I had another horse after that that I trained myself. She was a good girl but nothing super special. I don't even really remember cantering her...but I am sure I did.

I didn't have a horse for 26 years while I was raising kids. Fast forward to 2 years ago this past November. I tried a horse to buy that went buck a$$ wild on me...took the bit and ran away bucking. I came off at the end of the arena...I didn't think that was bad for someone who hadn't rode in 26 years! BUT my leg was severely injured. It is still after 2 years discolored. It is still slightly numb on the left side below the knee. My leg swelled twice its own size, was black and blue and fuchsia from thigh to my foot. My knee cap was sticking up 2". The doctor was shocked that the leg wasn't broke in several places, that the knee cap wasn't shattered and that my tendons and cartilage was ok just very bruised. It took months to quit having electrical shock type pain running through it...I had a severe skin infection.. All in all a very unpleasant experience.

The worst was it shattered my confidence. I did buy a horse 2 months leg was still uber tender. I bought a gentle but not well trained horse. He wouldn't run off or buck but he wasn't a trained horse. He was a former race horse though! Red taught me much but I still wasn't over my confidence problems. I did take lessons from a dressage instructor. She helped me to canter in the small arena...but Red always wanted to go to the center and that scared me too. Taking the lessons helped me so much though. I had to give Red to a good friend of mine and she is riding dressage on him and he is doing well. I recently bought another horse that is just as calm and gentle as Red and he is helping my confidence problems.

Take it slow. Don't feel like you have to show anyone ANYTHING. Work in the arena if you have one. I am currently working with my new horse to teach him to canter slow. He doesn't know how to do that and I am not confident enough to gallop yet. I have cantered him a few times but he wants to speed up and I am not ready for that.

Steady work over and over has helped me. I think back to the confidence I had as a kid and I wonder where that kid went (she was skinny too!) but I am what I am right now so every chance I get I work on it. I am riding Saturday, Sunday, Monday and Tuesday this week on trail rides as I am some vacation. I am going to keep working on this until I am satisfied with myself. It may not be to someone else's level but it is not about is about me.

Keep posting about how you are doing...I am always game to hear how someone else is over coming the same thing I am wrestling with.

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post #25 of 25 Old 12-10-2010, 08:07 PM
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I didn't read all the other replies, but I know EXACTLY how you are feeling, i started riding when i was about 12, i found out i was pregnant 3 weeks before my 21st b-day and didn't start riding again until last year(i'm going to be 25 on 1/7) when i started riding again would go up to an equine lameness place to ride, i mostly walked and did very little trotting on the dead broke lazy horse lol, then in the end up may i adopted an OTTB and well i didn't ride her for until i had had her for 4 months because she was so crazy i couldn't even lead her without her running me over and me being scared i was either going to lose her or get trampled lol...anyway i got the help of a trainer and she did great with her, about a month ago i tried to trot on Bella for the first time, OMG i thought i was going to bounce right off, i couldn't steer her because i was bouncing too much and she nearly ran into the rail(as if she couldn't turn herself lol) well 2 weeks ago i tried again and it went much better, i did a sitting trot instead of posting and aside from my feet sliding back too far in the stirrups i managed to to not look so totally ridiculous, well unfortunately my trainer moved 9 hours away the next day, so i'm on my own now and i'm loosing my confidence again, and my motivation to get out in the frigged cold lol i haven't ridden since she left because i'm not sure how she will be without our trainer
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