I can relate to this thread as I rode from the age of 8 . I was raised in a horse family and almost every aunt, cousin etc.. had horses so they were always around me. I was in 4H , trail rode, even did a little jumping during lessons. I never felt any fear even having my own young horse and putting the first few rides on him myself when I was in my early twenties.
As life goes, I had my own baby got out of horses for almost 7 years...except when we rented trail horses for an hour at a local trail riding stable.
When I met my now husband he kinda inspired me to get back into horses since it was something I loved so much. He said it was all I talked about , watched , read and my house was always decorated with hundreds of breyer horse models! I decided to shareboard a Quarter Horse that was on a farm that a man owned who taught 4H kids gaming. She was a wonderful mare and didnt do anything foolish with me, a real confidence builder. I then met my Mustang who I was told had more training then he did. I am glad that I was smart enough to realize this and not just get on him. I bought him anyway(probably not the best move) and he really put me in some situations I wasnt sure how to handle. Luckily I was never injured, just some bruises(once when I came off of him) I sent him to a trainer 3 yrs ago and things have been much better. I have since then had multiple experienced riders ride him, handle , trail ride him with great results and I have started riding him more this summer. He did spook yesterday at the "scary" corner of the ring. He jumped to the side like a semi reining spin but I was planted securely and just went with him and he calmed down quickly.
I do own another horse , a Paint that we got mainly for my daughter but has proven himself to be a great family horse. I don't have any confidence issue with him , he can't be a bit stubborn but has never tried anything stupid with any of us riding him, even my 10 yr old daughter.
I have taken lessons, worked with a trainer, watched dvds, read books, attending clinics anything that I can put my hands on to continue being a better rider for my horse.
I still have confidence issue when things are going on around me, if there is a lot of activity around the ring and I feel like my Mustang isnt fully listening to me. It can make me nervous, other more experienced riders watching me makes me nervous....I guess I think they are snickering at me? Which seems stupid but I don't want to look like a fool. I also have confidence issues when cantering so alot of the time I don't even try to ....I can take our Paint outside of ring and ride trails and in the pasture but my Mustang I feel nervous taking him out of the ring. I know he likes riding out better , the ring seems to bore him and he would prefer to be actually going somewhere.
I def. Would like to find someone to work with me on these issues but in my area it is hard to find trainers , instructors who are willing to come to you.
Any more insight on a workshop, clinic etc....on this I would love to know more about it.
Horses and children, I often think, have a lot of the good sense there is in the world.
Josephine Demott Robinson Feed, muck, groom, ride. Repeat daily!