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post #1 of 8 Old 12-11-2012, 12:50 AM Thread Starter
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awkward on my newly trained mare

So I started riding my mare. I have basically done everything from the ground up. I have a trainer as well and my mare is the first Ive taken from the ground up. This mare has never done anything I cant handle and has never shaken my confidence. We have a great bond. I trust her but I feel like a complete idiot riding her.

The why: Im so worried about her responses that if she did get out of hand Im scared Id fall and fail her (she looks to me before she makes a decision/spooks). I get nervous on her which she has to sense and the nerves affect my riding skill. Im not a new rider and ride a lot of green horses but I lack the confidence in my own training and I have a horrible seat and bad reaction times when I am nervous but its only on her like Ive said I ride green horses all the time. Im on a new horse nearly everyday. I know its all mental. Its a cycles that stems from not trusting my own training.

Side note: my trainer gave a lesson to a 10 yr old on her just the other day.

Guess my question is that obviously my trainer trusts my training. Why dont I?? What can I do? Ground work is not the answer as that us where we excel. Its a total mental thing with her. Im confident on the ground but start to lose it in the saddle. BTW she is a very very very good girl with the potential to be bad lol but she really would rather please.

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post #2 of 8 Old 12-11-2012, 01:15 AM
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Is it possible, you're nervous riding in front of people? Them watching, and possible constantly correcting you? I know for a fact that was our daughters issue. The girl can ride, and twirls baton competively in national completions. 4 year champion btw :) proud pappa. But start barking at her, she falls apart. Maybe you need to figure it out on your own. You'll feel what works and what doesn't. I'm not saying to go unsupervised. But just play on your mare. Go for a trail ride with friends, go run a totally off pattern. Just enjoy it. Our dAughter today twirled for a basketball game. Made the whole thing up her self. No teacher or anything. Just knows her tricks and made it work. Awesome! Same thing when she rides. We bust her chops about seat hands legs etc.... But she gets more out of riding with friends or alone. And just playing. Can't say I haven't seen three girls on one horse laughing and smiling as they go bucking past. Fun. Same as horses. Make it all work, it'll be hard to get em to do it. Have fun and enjoy the work that's got you there.
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I think that could help. I am so worried about my "proper" riding that it distracts from actually riding and I am so focused on making sure I don't ruin her that its taking away from my good intentions. Its a nasty cycle lol I'll try to relax the sessions and just have fun rather than focus on training.
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post #4 of 8 Old 12-12-2012, 12:36 AM
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You obviously need more confidence in your own abilities with this horse, that may come with more time...

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Relax and ride her they way you ride, your training her for you not for someone else right. You'll both make mistakes that's how you learn.
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I'm having a similar situation I find talking to myself and her helps. I also tell myself if I'm riding like a bag of spuds I'm teaching tolerance.
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post #7 of 8 Old 12-12-2012, 08:36 AM
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When you feed this coming on hum or sing Rock a bye baby lullaby. It changes your focus, your breathing and will relax your mare. Sing it as tho to a baby and smile.
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post #8 of 8 Old 12-12-2012, 07:06 PM Thread Starter
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Yes I'm training her for me. I'm trying to take the training focus off our riding sessions and have fun with it. Our rides get better and better every time too :)
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