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        06-10-2010, 12:43 AM
      #11
    Yearling
    Tacha, I completely understand your fears. I'm a nervous rider myself, so I really get where you're coming from. I find what really helped me was just spending time around horses. Doing all the little things like grooming and feeding. Sometimes just getting to spend time with a horse can really help your confidence.

    As far as buying a horse goes, get an experienced person to help you. I'd steer clear of auctions unless you have experience there, as a lot are young and green broke. Everyone's given you some great advice, but if you have anymore questions just ask :)
         
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        06-10-2010, 12:54 PM
      #12
    Foal
    They all give good, sound advice.

    And trust me, no matter how much knowledge you acquire can compare to hands on experience. Begin with the basics of grooming, or even visiting inside the pen. Get to know the horses, and bring them apples or carrots.

    In the beginning, I was just like you. Had this terrible fear even though nothing had directly happened to me. But then you learn to respect the horse for what it is. And a big thing is to not feel smaller than the horse. They are large, powerful creatures, but they will feel as big as you let them. If you begin to view yourself as a "larger" creature, then that confidence will show. Also, don't let them in your "bubble". Say you're grooming them or visiting, and they start to get pushy, get pushy back. Don't let them control you. It's easier said than done, but with practice, you'll get your confidence back! :)

    Confidence won't happen overnight, but if you take baby steps (like you plan to) then you'll be miles down the road before you know it! :)
         
        06-10-2010, 01:17 PM
      #13
    Yearling
    This is a great place to get good info/advice. Are you set up for a horse now? If its just the horse your afraid of and your not ready to get into the saddle have you thought of getting a mini or pony as a pet? That way you can get use to being around horses. With out the "fear" you would get with a bigger horse.
    You'd still be able to groom and get good experience like ground work and the basics.
         
        06-10-2010, 03:56 PM
      #14
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by SorrelHorse    
    I'm glad you were helped by my post. I deal with a lot of people in your situation, and trust me some have a breakdown whenever they see a horse. You'll overcome
    The fear ^^
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    I feel much more confident after everyone's responses! Thank you again, i'm very glad that I have come across this forum, I got many helpful replies, this is a great online community and I plan on sticking around!
         
        06-10-2010, 04:03 PM
      #15
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by travlingypsy    
    This is a great place to get good info/advice. Are you set up for a horse now? If its just the horse your afraid of and your not ready to get into the saddle have you thought of getting a mini or pony as a pet? That way you can get use to being around horses. With out the "fear" you would get with a bigger horse.
    You'd still be able to groom and get good experience like ground work and the basics.
    Thank you travlingypsy, Yes we are set up and are able to have horses here and actually my mom is going to be getting a mini in the near future which will grant me the possibility of being able to learn a horse... in mini style.
         
        06-10-2010, 04:46 PM
      #16
    Foal
    You can over come your fears! It will take time, but time and patience are key! As for breeds, age, etc. It all depends on how much you're willing to spend and what discipline you want to do. You can get a young very well trained horse, or an older very well trained horse. Quarter horse's are 'can do it all' horses, so you might want to look into them
         
        06-10-2010, 05:03 PM
      #17
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ThinkingOfRiding    
    You can over come your fears! It will take time, but time and patience are key! As for breeds, age, etc. It all depends on how much you're willing to spend and what discipline you want to do. You can get a young very well trained horse, or an older very well trained horse. Quarter horse's are 'can do it all' horses, so you might want to look into them
    Thank you for the support! Since SorrelHorse's recommendation i've been reading alot about Quater Horses as a beginners horse, so i'm going to do alot of reading about horses and Quater Horses and then i'm going to do some groud work and just spend time with them and then slowly build up to riding and once I am confident enough I am going to purchase my first horse and continue lessons with him! I look forward to spending more time with this great online community... I know I will get much help, info, advice from everyone!
         
        06-10-2010, 05:10 PM
      #18
    Green Broke
    Oops, I thought they were warm blooded breeds. Meh.

    They are great horses. My mom has one and she is really really mellow and she had another one that was mellow but I think had more spunk. The one she has now is older and seems lazy,haha.

    I guess now thinking about it they are cold bloods. Sorry SorrelHorses's!
         
        06-10-2010, 05:39 PM
      #19
    Foal
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    Natacha,

    1.)If we ride horses we are going to come off some time or other.

    2.) If your desire to ride is stronger than your fear you can overcome the fear.

    3.) Something to also think about is start with a smaller horse, 14-14.2 hands. Easier to get on and closer to the ground.

    4.) It is hard to tell if you are just afraid to ride or also afraid of horses in general. With the help of someone who knows what they are doing work a horse in a round pen. This helped my grandson immensely when he saw he could make the horse at liberty move away, he could cut off the horse and make him stop and change direction, change gaits up and down, and have the horse turn in and stop all while he was 20 ft from the horse.

    You can do it,

    Ben
         
        06-10-2010, 06:13 PM
      #20
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by knickerb    
    Natacha,

    1.)If we ride horses we are going to come off some time or other.

    2.) If your desire to ride is stronger than your fear you can overcome the fear.

    3.) Something to also think about is start with a smaller horse, 14-14.2 hands. Easier to get on and closer to the ground.

    4.) It is hard to tell if you are just afraid to ride or also afraid of horses in general. With the help of someone who knows what they are doing work a horse in a round pen. This helped my grandson immensely when he saw he could make the horse at liberty move away, he could cut off the horse and make him stop and change direction, change gaits up and down, and have the horse turn in and stop all while he was 20 ft from the horse.

    You can do it,

    Ben
    Thanks for responding Ben!
    I'm not afraid of riding... I think . I'm mostly afraid of the horse's size as well as i'm afraid of the horrible things that could come from being squished or my foot staying caught in the stirup (sp?) Its that fear that has driven me away from persuing riding and buying a horse of my own but it's something I think about alot. Enough that now i'd like to start working with them like many mentioned on here and just one on one getting to know horses and slowly build up. I believe that if I master my fear and have enough confidence with the horse I ride and take lessons with then I can do the same with the one I buy. I do know that it's quite impossible that ii'd never fall off a horse but I hope it is just a bump and I can brush myself off and get back on.
    Yes there are many people who can hurt themselves badly on a horse but then again you can on anything, me and my three brothers motocross and both my brothers have injured themselves.
    My one brother broke his collar bone and the other tore open his shin right to the bone and crushed a vertibrae in his back (two seperate occaisons), it was enough to scare my other brother (the one who broke his collar bone) into selling his motocross, but months later he purchased another one. I took some spills too, but nothing worse than a bruised up side or scraps.

    I think I need to realize that with anything you do there is always risks, but does your passion outwigh the risks? Food for thought eh? Lol...
    Natacha
         

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