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post #11 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 02:00 AM
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Another thing I learned after I started really riding is that a lot of your riding can be in the ring anyway. You're constantly training your horse or yourself by practicing things and tightening up previously learned things. Don't think there is anything wrong with riding in an arena. I have friends who only ever ride in the arena, no trail rides or anything.
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post #12 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 02:19 AM
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keep riding in the ring till u get one option... or face your fears!!!
maybe get led around outside till your confident!!!

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post #13 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 02:38 AM
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n.n dont be afriad to pull a little harder they are big strong animals i learned this the hard way lolz just telling you now lessons are great but the number 1 thing you can do is WEAR A HELMET!!!! always always!!

the arena is fine i always ride in the arena i want to go on trail rides but alot of times a can't! arenas are fine

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post #14 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 06:41 AM
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Originally Posted by dutchessgoldengirl View Post
kitten_Val, there is not really anywhere around me to take lessons I have been looking all around me and have no found anything yet. If anyone could help me find someone close I would appreciate it.
Where approximately are you located? There are lots of people on forum - I'm pretty sure someone is from your area. BTW, I found my current trainer through the forum as well.

I second the helmet suggestion. You can get something on cheaper side (Troxels starts with I believe ~$30).
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post #15 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 07:59 AM
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I can so relate to your confidence problems I started riding about 5 years ago, on quite difficult trails because I live in a very hilly area and I have no arena. It went quite well for a while. But then I fell off and hurt myself, so there went my confidence. Time passed and I was always sooo nervous to go back up on my horse, even though she is a very sweet and calm one (maybe a little bit too young to be the best learner).
Last year I started taking lessons with a new girl in the neighbourhood, English lessons on a very calm pony (I used to ride western on a Paint horse). And I have to say that it has helped me a lot.
I would so have loved to start in an arena, and my best advice to you is to ride a lot in the arena. Don't go outside the arena until you are bored and can ride with your eyes closed (so to speak). If you are in a good relationship with your brother-in-law then ask him, I believe that a man would always love to be asked to help a woman with a thing that he is good at
Always wear a helmet (even if you are a western rider). Sing or hum to keep yourself relaxed, take some deep breaths. Don't overdo it, it's better to go often and for a short time, than building up tension and a feeling of "I have to go, I should go, too many days have passed now but I feel nervous". Always end your ride on a positive note, that will build your confidence as well as the horse's.
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post #16 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 11:52 AM
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I agree with all of the one's that say lessons will help. You also need to remember that if you're nervous when you get on, the horse WILL pick up on it. In their brain they are thinking, "if she's nervous, there is a reason I should be too", in human speak of course ;).

Always ask as many questions as needed! I've been around horses my entire life, and I'm STILL learning. Both from friends that I ride with and the people on here. Life in general is a learning experience, and I try to learn something every day.

After my 2nd throw last year, I traded my big saddlebred gelding in on a small TWH (a been there, done that type), because any shred of confidence I had left was completely gone. The very first ride I took her on when I got her home, I had called the lady I was supposed to be riding with and told her that I had to cancel. I was terrified. Her exact words were "Get your butt over here. I'm not going to let you back out on me." Needless to say, my little mare was my much needed confidence builder. I have more confidence now than I guess I ever have had, which is one reason I bought Rookie in April. He's harder to handle, but has that willing to learn ability, the wanting to please personality, and as many times as he could have, he has NEVER done anything to hurt me. I found out a couple of weeks ago that I was better off wearing spurs with him, after I let a friend ride. Just because he had been ridden with them by the lady who owned him for the first 8 years of his life. In a group trail ride, he would prance really hard and turn sideways with me...which did scare me because it would be a teeth jarring prance, and he always had to be in front for him to go at a normal walk. He was picking up on my fear so bad that I was taking a nerve pill before I would get on him. Then it escalated to the point that he would halfway rear when I took him away from the other horses. He had the past two weeks off because of a place that he had rubbed raw at the base of his mane. I rode him for the first time after his two week rest yesterday (with the spurs of course) in another large group ride. He pranced a little...but not the teeth jarring prance that he had done in the past. He tried turning sideways on me, and all I had to do was touch him with the spur, and he straightened out. He would also get into his gait...instead of the pacing that he used to do. I was finally able to ride him at the back, in the middle, and ended the ride out in the lead...not because he wanted to be there, but because I did. By the end of the ride, he was anticipating the "touch" when I started to turn my heel in, and would straighten out immediately. It was so nice to have him listen to me instead of me having to listen to him in the group!!!!

I'm definitely NOT telling you to do this, especially without using them before and especially on a 3 yo. My point is that he was picking up on me, and acting out. If you can find that comfort point with her, it is the best thing you can do. Also, if your husband lets her run with him, ride her before he does. I had 2 of my trail riding friends tell my hubby a couple of weeks ago while I was still riding, that if I let him ride Rook and he just let him run, that all he was doing was ruining him for me, and ruining all the work that I had been doing with him. He hasn't asked me to ride him since.

Sorry this is so long, but this is what I've learned through my experience, and hopefully a small bit of it will help you.

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post #17 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 04:26 PM Thread Starter
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I am located in Southwest Virginia, right near the KY border. You have been very helpful, my brother-in-law doesnt get why I get nervous out of the ring and I can't seem to get him to understand.
Very helpful everyone :))
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post #18 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 04:31 PM Thread Starter
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Everyone is being really helpful. I am hoping that with more time with her and on her that I will become a lot more comfortable. Thank you everyone for your advice, I will be sure to try it out:))
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post #19 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 05:28 PM
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well one thing IMHO since you are a beginner rider I think you should have an older horse. 3 years old is very young and sometimes they can get a wild hair up their butt. She was probably broke at 2 yrs old so she is still pretty new with someone being on top of her.

Lessons are the best. I took only a few and it helped a great amount! I was shocked at how well my riding technique improved.
Also since she is still young work with her in an arena or large round pen. Do you stable her or have her in a pasture?

Lunge her before you go ride out somewhere open to wear her out a bit so she is more calmed down.
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post #20 of 32 Old 09-20-2010, 06:25 PM Thread Starter
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She is out to pasture right now, she will be in a stall here in a little while.
She has been ridden aloooot and is a pretty calm horse, she has her moments. We may look into getting an older horse as well.
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