Building confidence in a timid rider - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 3 Old 01-19-2012, 05:56 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 742
• Horses: 1
Question Building confidence in a timid rider

My mom has always been terrified of horses, to the point where she wouldn't even get out of the car when I first started taking lessons. But after over a decade of dealing with a horse crazy daughter, she's gradually starting to break out of her comfort zone. We hit a major milestone a few weeks ago when I finally talked her in to climbing up on Dublin and letting me lead her around the arena. Kinda ironic actually that she refused to get on my first horse, a broke-to-death 21 year-old, but she barely hesitated to get on my four year-old greenie Oh well, it has been quite a few years between then and now.

Anyway, my question is: What are some things I can do with my mom to help build her confidence? I know working with a green horse and rider isn't an ideal situation, but Dublin is pretty laid back for a young horse. I'm thinking moving her to the lunge line so I can help her with position and balance. Any tips on specific exercises we can do would be great.
Ink is offline  
Sponsored Links
post #2 of 3 Old 01-19-2012, 07:07 PM
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Connecticut
Posts: 8,157
• Horses: 0
Just don't do anything to overface her! With the older crowd, one bad experience can take you many many steps back. Walk her around until she's dead bored. Then move onto trot.

You just have to see your don't have to like it.
MyBoyPuck is offline  
post #3 of 3 Old 01-20-2012, 02:00 AM
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Missouri
Posts: 16,846
• Horses: 1
Agree with MyBoyPuck. My mom is the most... nervous wreck ever. She hyperventilates when she drives and she worries and gets all flustered so easily. For awhile, she'd jump everytime Sky would twitch due to a fly. Then all of a sudden she started begging me to teach her how to ride. No. My horse is green, he isn't ready. Well I finally climbed on him bareback (couldn't saddle him due to an injury near his girth) and then a few days later, got my mom on him bareback and they did great.

Though I'm not going to push her into doing more than that. She's not the riding type. Her heart isn't into it, which is sad but whatever.

She just thinks he's adorable and finds it funny when he rubs on her (which I tell him off for of course) but yeah, don't over face your mom. Baby steps.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
Skyseternalangel is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Timid rider bareback Bennett Horse Riding 7 01-01-2012 11:22 PM
Is this possible? Very timid rider owning a horse long term? Riding critique samc230 Horse Riding Critique 44 11-18-2011 10:39 PM
Help building confidence in the canter SaraNana Horse Riding 2 09-26-2011 12:44 AM
Building my confidence back Icedancer Horse Talk 4 02-22-2010 01:19 PM
Building Confidence Tennessee Horse Riding 8 10-10-2009 07:43 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome