Something else I have discovered with relation to riding confidently is that my horse can feel me being tense.
When I first got her, she would exploit my weakness.
Today, 3 months later, she helps me through.
We've had a couple"come to Jesus"sessions in the round pen, done the join up thing a few times, and now, with every ride, our harmony grows in leaps and bounds.
I talk to her like she's my best friend, reassure her when she gets tense, and let he know how much I believe in her.
I am totally blessed with an amazing horse, and I believe that w have just begun to scratch the surface of our joint abilities.
When I feel that tightening in my gut, I give her a pat on the shoulder, tell her I need a little more, and she always comes through for me.
Its a two way street too.
We're teaching her to back out of our slant trailer, and it freaks her out to no end.
To help her along, I get beside her, and guide her back feet to the ground.
Yes, i've almost been kicked a dozen times, but she seems to calm down some when I help he like that. Sort of like,"I won't let you fall, and I trust in you to to not let me fall either"type .
W have worked very hard to develop our relationship and its been a rocky road.
Spend a little more time together in the round pen, work on your basics, and grow past your hiccup together.
We Marines never leave anyone behind.
Don't grow yourself without helping your horse friend grow too.