I recently started Western lessons and yesterday was my second. The first lesson was great and the trainer definitely used a "trial by fire" approach - I got up to a canter over some ground poles and did well. Yesterday I rode the same horse, a teenage Quarter and he wasn't in the mood for riding! When I got on, he immediately tried to buck me off. Then he wouldn't listen to my commands. The instructor told me to smack his butt, kick as hard as I could to get him to trot and he just wouldn't. So she got on him to see if he was okay, and as SOON as she got on he started trotting.
She said, "Well, what do you think the problem is here?" Then she said I'm too "wishy-washy" and that I have to "be one with the horse" and find that "anger" inside me so he'll obey. I know horses can tell when the rider is hesitant or scared and they'll take advantage of you...but it was only my second lesson!! Of course I'm going to be a little hesitant. What am I doing wrong? The horse obviously trusted the instructor, but not me.
Also, how long did it take everyone to figure out how to tack? My instructor got irritated with me yesterday because I didn't know how. It's a lot to remember very quickly!
Thanks everyone! :)