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post #11 of 19 Old 08-18-2011, 03:14 PM
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Wow. Most folks complain that their instructors are too putzy and milk them for more lessons! This one sounds like she is trying to build Rome in a day!
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post #12 of 19 Old 08-18-2011, 09:12 PM
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I bet we all have stories of how our instructors practically got us "killed". I used to ride with a dressage instructor who would put me up on this HUGE warmblood , on the lungeline, no reins, no stirrups and make me ride him in circles. Mostly walk trot only, but one day another person was lunging right next to us and my horse just took off cavorting. My instructor was praising me on how well I rode the canter, but I was saying, "I'm not comfortable with this!"
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post #13 of 19 Old 08-18-2011, 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Dresden View Post
For your second lesson you are doing very well. I have been riding for years and I still sometimes have to stand back and look real hard at the saddle to figure out if its too far forward or back. It takes time to learn to tack and build confidence.

To be very blunt if your instructor is getting irritated and throwing that sort of attitude at your 2nd lesson she needs to learn some patience or not teach beginners. You might want to consider a new instructor.

And of course he obeyed her! She isn't brand new to this. You are having normal beginner problems. Sorry, I don't have a lot of patience for instructors who get annoyed with beginners. Its a good way to turn people off riding.
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post #14 of 19 Old 08-19-2011, 11:33 AM
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I'm with everyone else, find a new instructor even if you have to pay more or travel further. You're not going to enjoy riding as much as you should if your instructor is frankly, being a bitch. There's no excuse for an instructor to lose her patience with a beginner. I think a lot of seasoned riders and instructors forget what it's like to be a newbie and that's understandable to a certain level, however, in this case your instructor sounds like a horrible person to be around and you'll probably end up frustrated and turned off in the long run...
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post #15 of 19 Old 08-20-2011, 08:07 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks so much everybody! I really appreciate the encouragement and suggestions. I was also extremely surprised when the instructor had me cantering on my first day. Scared the heck out of me!

I am happy to say I started with a new instructor today (who has heard horrible things about my previous instructor and totally didn't blame me for leaving!). She is so patient and kind. My "starter horse" is a little older, a 26 year old Appaloosa but he's very sweet and quick to respond to commands :) NOW my confidence is coming back!
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post #16 of 19 Old 08-20-2011, 08:51 PM
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That is great! I am glad you changed teachers. The first one sounds like an accident waiting to happen.

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post #17 of 19 Old 08-20-2011, 09:02 PM
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Originally Posted by VACowgirl View Post
I am happy to say I started with a new instructor today (who has heard horrible things about my previous instructor and totally didn't blame me for leaving!). She is so patient and kind. My "starter horse" is a little older, a 26 year old Appaloosa but he's very sweet and quick to respond to commands :) NOW my confidence is coming back!
Good decision! Best luck with the new instructor!

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post #18 of 19 Old 08-20-2011, 09:23 PM
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Originally Posted by tinyliny View Post
MY question is if that was only your second lesson, with cantering on your first, and over ground poles, . . how long have you been riding , period?

If you are new to riding in general, that is WAY WAY WAY too much to throw at a beginner. That instructor has no common sense and sounds like someone who will put you in a place where you might end up hurt.
Is that how you want to learn to ride?

Well said, Tiny. The only thing I would add would be that a lesson horse for a beginning rider should NEVER buck, no matter how timid the rider.

Find a new instructor. That being said, you will have disagreements or misunderstandings with any instructor. You can learn SOMETHING from every instructor, but don't be too quick to switch. I just think her snotty attitude in your tacking up, coupled with a lesson horse that tried to buck you off AND pushing you too hard in your first lesson (in my opinion) all add up to a situation that won't be as pleasant or beneficial as it could be. Like someone said, there are too many good instructors to stick with a bad one. I think a good instructor should push you out of your comfort zone as long as they have given you a good foundation.
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post #19 of 19 Old 08-20-2011, 09:28 PM
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Oops, I responded before I saw your next post. I'm so glad you changed instructors. A 26-year-old lesson horse sounds exactly perfect for a beginner rider! I hope you have a blast!
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