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        05-24-2012, 12:41 AM
      #11
    Foal
    Thanks alot everyone, at least now I don't feel like I shouldn't be riding because I am afraid of this well broke horse. He does have issues, it's almost like he can't be left alone because those are the times he gets scared. He never pulled back when tied before though. My hubby says he's an awesome horse just needs to learn how to stand tied and be patient. He always paws when he's tied. I am still leaning toward selling/ trading him but the decision isn't going to be made until we move and have him home to work with daily ( we just bought 160 acres we move onto in august)

    As for the people who sold him I am Guessing they were dishonest although I really hate thinking that about people. I was told this horse was pretty much perfect for what I needed when in reality he is no where close.
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        05-24-2012, 01:30 AM
      #12
    Weanling
    Don't feel bad about not wanting to ride this horse. I think I understood you to say that your friend has a horse that is sane that you could ride. I would ask and see if that is possible. Lessons are nice, but having a nice sane horse to ride is great. I would rather ride a horse like that in a round pen then a arena. I have a bolter myself, he only does this crap with me on him, good confident riders he doesn't or can't get away with it. I finally made my mind up enough is enough. Believe me when I tell you there is nothing that will build your confidence up more then a quiet sane horse. Horses are risky no matter what but if something goes wrong and I have to sip my food through a straw I want it to be because there was nothing that could be done, not because I got on a horse that my gut was telling me was too much for me.
    This horse needs some training and if he trailered for you to get him then he can be trained to do it again, need to find someone who knows or can work with you to get him back into listening.
    I hope you can get your confidence back, riding is so much fun.
         
        05-24-2012, 09:46 AM
      #13
    Foal
    Sorry about this .. Sell the horse . Start lessons with someone good with adults . Then when your instructor says you are ready : try-try-try out new horses - many as you can befor ya buy . Sadly there are so many preditory horse sellers out there . Mybe try some gaited horses ? A good trusty trail horse does NOT bolt , set back at rail ( relly sounds like he was thinking about it even befor the cat :- ( If he will run off with you - he will do it with any other (kids) he thinks he can bully . Get a safe horse for you then move up later as you get better - if you are scared of him you won't ride him - so why keep him ?
         
        05-24-2012, 10:59 AM
      #14
    Foal
    I would love a safe horse, but people don't sell them or if they do they want an arm and a leg for them. Anything good is gone within hours. A rescue underweight mare would cost me 2500! I was also looking at rocky mountain or walking horses but they are $5000 and all 6 year olds.

    In saying that I also know I am probably not going to sit on this horse again :( sucks because I picked him out and I wanted him. ... But who is going to want a horse that won't get in their trailer to go home with them? Ugh it's a mess
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        05-24-2012, 02:28 PM
      #15
    Weanling
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    I would love a safe horse, but people don't sell them or if they do they want an arm and a leg for them. Anything good is gone within hours. A rescue underweight mare would cost me 2500! I was also looking at rocky mountain or walking horses but they are $5000 and all 6 year olds.

    In saying that I also know I am probably not going to sit on this horse again :( sucks because I picked him out and I wanted him. ... But who is going to want a horse that won't get in their trailer to go home with them? Ugh it's a mess
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    I bought my QH mare who is 13yrs old for $500 she had been a trailhorse then a broodmare for about 7yrs. I sent my husband and his friend out to look at her, both jumped on her bareback (they like to get to the bones of it) with just a halter. Her owners said they weren't sure if she would be ridable without some refreshing. I went out 2days later we saddle and bitted her she did fine, I bought her on the spot. My husband and a couple of male friends have been trailriding her for a couple of months and because my confidence was shaky I only just took her out this past week, wow she blew me away, she was so rock steady.
    My first year learning to ride a friend let me keep his mare at our place while I learned to ride, he trusted us and knew that his mare would get the very best, and I would mother the heck out of her. He kept the gelding with us as well and we did the work, fed them he did pitch in on some of the hay, but it worked out because he had become super busy.
    There are a lot of discussions about trailering on here. I don't know if your aware of the phrase move his feet, but basically take them to the trailer don't yank and pull, if they wont go in back them up, try again, back em up, try again, until your horse realises that the trailer is a nice restful place to be. My mare likes the side doors open I think its because of the darkness that she is being asked to go into. It's a trial and error finding the right button on your horse, but moving their feet is always good. Horses are basically lazy so keeping them moving until they figure out hey its nice and restful in here hmmm not so bad.
    If you truly want to ride, look up stuff, like how to trailer a horse, how to desensitized them so they don't get worked up if they get spooked. Like my sister always says to her daughter you don't sit on a horse, you ride them. You have to be proactive trying to figure out how to become their leader. You can do it, I was more spooky then my horse spending time with them brushing, bathing, leading them will help. I used to tell my husband "don't leave me alone with him" lol if he was going to go get something quick lol I was more prancy then he was. That helped me to become better, basically I was desensitized
         
        05-24-2012, 04:14 PM
      #16
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Newatthis    
    Thanks alot everyone, at least now I don't feel like I shouldn't be riding because I am afraid of this well broke horse. He does have issues, it's almost like he can't be left alone because those are the times he gets scared. He never pulled back when tied before though. My hubby says he's an awesome horse just needs to learn how to stand tied and be patient. He always paws when he's tied. I am still leaning toward selling/ trading him but the decision isn't going to be made until we move and have him home to work with daily ( we just bought 160 acres we move onto in august)

    As for the people who sold him I am Guessing they were dishonest although I really hate thinking that about people. I was told this horse was pretty much perfect for what I needed when in reality he is no where close.
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    He probably was a well trained show horse but that does not equal a good trail horse. He was probably kept in a stall and always ridden in a ring and I bet they didn't have any trouble with him. It can be common for a show horse to not react the same when made into a pasture/ trail horse. He might make a great lesson horse for a show barn.
    A friend of mine bought a well trained saddlebred show horse and tried to make him a pasture/trail horse and it was absolutly crazy. Could do anything with it at all outdoors. Couldn't lunge it, it went crazy trying to get to the other horses, threw a fit being ridden, would jump fences to try and get to the other horses. She finally returned the horse and it was sold to someone who kept it in a stall and treated it like a show horse and it was fine.
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        05-24-2012, 05:47 PM
      #17
    Weanling
    I don't want to sound harsh but if your scared / nervous to ride then don't. If you will make excuses not to ride then you don't want to. Nothing's wrong with that, maybe after the 10 year and 3 kids you have new priorities and unless you can brush off the bad falls and injurys it will not be much fun for you.

    Oooorrrr get a packer, dead broke trail horse
         
        05-24-2012, 05:50 PM
      #18
    Trained
    CHERIE just posted a very good horse for you. She wants $3.5K. Expect to pay THAT or more and it will save you a wreck and a hospital bill, so you will be saving money.
    I would buy her gelding if it was 2 years ago.
         
        05-25-2012, 12:05 AM
      #19
    Foal
    I do make a million and one excuses not to ride but it's just this horse. I used to ride lots so I hoped on the horse, it took off and even though I stuck in the saddle it scared the crap out of me. Thanks to my anxiety disorder I can't just forget about it. I always have to think what if what if, sadly if that first ride had gone ok I would not be like this lol. Like I said though this horse is fine as long as he has another to follow. I just don't trust him anymore and he makes me nervous.
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        05-25-2012, 12:07 AM
      #20
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by Newatthis    
    I just don't trust him anymore and he makes me nervous.
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    Have you decided on what you're going to do?
         

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