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    01-08-2014, 05:32 PM
  #11
Weanling
Reasons For Horse Back Riding Lessons:
1. It is physical exercise.
2. It teaches her to work with a horse - team work.
3. It teaches determination. (there will be days where that horse will just not listed and you have to preservere through it)
4. She will for bonds with the horses
5. Later on when she is older, many barns offer to let you do farm work for discounted lessons, making the lessons cheaper.
6. It is horses! There is no reason not to do it ;)
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    01-08-2014, 05:35 PM
  #12
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I agree completely! I gave a 7 year old girl her first lesson yesterday and she is a very nervous kid in general. I always tell her that a horse is a mirror...if you are calm the horse will be. If you are angry the horse will be too.
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    01-08-2014, 06:32 PM
  #13
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Explain to him that if horses are truly her passion, then this interest will last much, much longer than soccer and piano will if she's not too fond of them. I did all kinds of sports when I was in lower school, but didn't like any of them enough to stick until I began taking riding lessons. If you want her to stick to a sport, then it needs to be something that she likes. There's no law that says the three of you can't run to the park on weekends to kick a soccer ball around for fun, but she can't really do that with horse riding. The lessons are really the only way into it.

As a kid, my parents forced me to take piano lessons. In fact, I felt rather tricked into it when I was in first grade. My mom asked me if I wanted to do it, and said that I could stop after a year if I didn't like it. After the year passed I said that I wanted to stop, but they made me continue. The reason? My dad took piano lessons a little bit as a child, and stopped. HE regretted not continuing the lessons, and wished that his parents had made him so he could play nowadays. He insisted that we keep with it through high school. Through lower school it was ok, but by middle school most of the other kids had dropped out. My parents told me that I HAD to practice 30 minutes per day, which is probably necessary to really be able to master the music.

By 8th grade I was one of the only students still in the program (it was done through the school) and it was miserable for me. I was busy with (strangely enough) school, horses, and the season of soccer that I randomly decided to sign up for. I HATED piano. HATED it. It was miserable for me, I wouldn't have time to practice, and it was miserable for my piano teacher. Because I wouldn't practice, I wouldn't advance. We'd be going over the same things week after week, and she finally had to contact my parents and convince them to let me quit. I convinced them to let me quit under the condition that I would still play for fun once in awhile, but I didn't touch that piano again for years because of my resentment for it. Playing for fun would have been impossible The better part of 10 years later I've resolved my differences with the piano and will mess around with it for fun with some of my old sheet music. If my parents had let me let it go years earlier, then I probably would have become a better piano player than I am now. That's not really a reason to continue riding lessons per say, but a reason why to not force your child into an activity she's not interested in.

I would try to talk your husband into picking one of his favored activities (soccer or piano), and compromise to save money and time. She gets to do the riding lessons that you want, or the soccer or piano that she wants. Better yet, see if he'll let HER choose between the two. It's not fair for him to control all of her extracurricular activities, and you get no say. To further relieve costs, perhaps suggest that she continue with group lessons instead of individual. Depending on how the group lessons are run, you daughter can benefit greatly from learning from her peers, as well as make lifelong riding buddies. Just make sure it's not your girl shoved into a lesson with 12 other girls that are cantering 3' fences!
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    01-08-2014, 08:41 PM
  #14
Foal
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Originally Posted by carmen315    
Please help me convince my husband she should be in riding lessons instead of piano and soccer (nothing against them though). What are the advantages and how can she use the skills she learns in the future?
I'm a firm believer that, if one can afford it, an extracurricular activity should be something that a child truly loves. When people are unhappy they don't learn well. If she doesn't love soccer, all the wonderful skills that playing soccer can develop will be lost on her.

Partnership with a horse is a wonderful thing. She'll be learning that not only she depends on the horse, the horse depends on her. She'll be learning patience and seeing the bigger picture--always. She'll be learning how to put the horse's interest and well being first. All her hard work and effort can "go to waste" (unless one has the right attitude) if a horse spooks in a show--and her life will still continue. This is invaluable. A horse is a living being, with his own personality and habits. She'll be learning about animal behavior, animal learning, and animal care.

She'll be learning about relationships, not just a simple physical skill of riding.

I'm sure every sport and activity is valuable. It boils down, again, to the fundamental idea that it should be the child's choice, for an activity to be truly beneficial. Yes, horses are expensive, but it is okay to have only one extracurricular activity. In fact, it is probably quite beneficial.

I have a child who chose horses. A child who chose music. A child who chose gymnastics. I can't imagine deciding for them.

Good luck with your decision.
     
    01-09-2014, 12:10 AM
  #15
Foal
I just wrote a really long post about what great advice you all have given me and it timed out on me and I lost it! Oh well...here we go again...thank you so much!

I read each and every post to my husband and I think we're making some progress! ;) He loved the idea of her being in the barn with the horses instead of being in the mall with boys! I think that may be the cherry on top!

I agree that we don't want her in a lot of extracurriculars. Sometimes kids just need to be kids! But I do know that you can just learn some great life lessons just being around horses as you all have said so well.

The idea about earning the lessons by doing chores is such a great idea! She could really use that experience. Also, I totally agree about the role models within the horse community. Her instructor is an 18 year old high school senior teaching riding lessons on Saturdays. I can just tell that my daughter is looking up to her and that's a great thing. Her instructor is kind, smart, and motivated. All great qualities.

Are there other ways we can get her involved in the horse community? We are outsiders to this world (although my husband did work for 8 years as gate crew at a race track). I think this is a great family bonding time. I'm afraid I might get the horse riding bug too. Don't think I've been on a horse in 10 years!

Thank y'all so much! You're fantastic.
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    01-09-2014, 12:35 AM
  #16
Foal
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Originally Posted by carmen315    
I just wrote a really long post about what great advice you all have given me and it timed out on me and I lost it! Oh well...here we go again...thank you so much!

I read each and every post to my husband and I think we're making some progress! ;) He loved the idea of her being in the barn with the horses instead of being in the mall with boys! I think that may be the cherry on top!

I agree that we don't want her in a lot of extracurriculars. Sometimes kids just need to be kids! But I do know that you can just learn some great life lessons just being around horses as you all have said so well.

The idea about earning the lessons by doing chores is such a great idea! She could really use that experience. Also, I totally agree about the role models within the horse community. Her instructor is an 18 year old high school senior teaching riding lessons on Saturdays. I can just tell that my daughter is looking up to her and that's a great thing. Her instructor is kind, smart, and motivated. All great qualities.

Are there other ways we can get her involved in the horse community? We are outsiders to this world (although my husband did work for 8 years as gate crew at a race track). I think this is a great family bonding time. I'm afraid I might get the horse riding bug too. Don't think I've been on a horse in 10 years!

Thank y'all so much! You're fantastic.
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    01-09-2014, 12:56 AM
  #17
Foal
I think if she wants to ride, she should ride. And this is just my opinion, but I think riding is a LOT better for the kid than something like soccer. Riding gives the same amount, or around there, of exercise, they learn to be responsible, and that they are not right all the time, or even half of the time, they learn what true love and caring is, and they grow attached, protective, and connected to their equine friend.
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    01-09-2014, 02:20 AM
  #18
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Originally Posted by horselessmom    
I sent you a PM.
Got it! I need 2 more posts before I can reply though!!
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    01-09-2014, 02:34 AM
  #19
Foal
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Originally Posted by carmen315    
Got it! I need 2 more posts before I can reply though!!
I thought you were going to say that you needed 2 hours to read it. I type pretty fast so my posts / PMs always end up really long.
     
    01-09-2014, 02:42 AM
  #20
Started
Pony club! I didn't do it as a young kid (I think I was about 15 when I joined), but I saw the positive affect that it had on the younger kids. Kids get to be around other horse-crazy kids their own age, spend time with horses, and learn a lot in the process. They encourage kids to be independent horse people, such as by keeping a horse management book. At the rallies kids are required to do everything independent of parental help. There are obviously adults roaming around to supervise, but the kids need to figure out how to be on time for their rides, care for their own horse, and maintain their own tack. Definitely something that I would recommend at least looking into!

The other thing that helped me learn a lot about horses, even before I began lessons, was horse camps. My first real horse experience was a week-long horse camp when I was 11, and I loved it! We learned everything from the parts of a horse, proper horse care, health aspects, tack and its parts, as well as different breeds, colors, markings, etc. We had riding lessons as well, and before each lesson we would learn how to groom and tack up the horses. It was super fun for me, and I learned a lot. My weekly lessons were incredibly beneficial and I accumulate lots of horse knowledge, but we were paying for riding lessons. Not general "horse knowledge lessons"!
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