Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Bunbury, Western Australia
your between a rock and a hard place here!
She might get her feelings hurt no matter what you say to her, she needs an instructor or another rider that is REALLY experience to tell her in the nicest way possible, if that person is you then start with saying that you really are scared for her safety. Tell her thather horse is being a brat and she needs to stop him for both their sakes. Tell her about injuries you had from horses if any but tell her that she is doing a disservice to her horse and herself. Tell her he's going to get too dangerous and no one could fix it when it's too late. Ask her what she thinks is normal for a horse to be with their owner and if she was a horse where she thinks she would be in the herd.
Compare it to an abusive relationship with a guy, if she doesn't do something about it, she might not get a chance to fix it, she might not ever be able to ride again!
Try and try and try! Just keep telling her even if she's upset but make sure she knows why your telling her this, tell her she is important to you that's why you care about her, tell her how much you would miss her if it got to the stage of "no return". Ask if she wants you to help her, to show her the sweet horse this horse (hopefully) can be. Lend hr your horse on a few occassions to help her see the difference. Riding is meant to be fun!!
I really feel for you being in this situation. My previous horse I tried hard to fix his disrespect for people and it ended with me in hospital when he threw me off and double barrelled me in the face! I was lucky he didn't kill me, I got rid of him! Your life isn't that worthless to have a horse that only wants to harm you. Sounds like she also needs to read about the horses language and herd behaviour.
She seems to have a fantasy in her head she's trying to live out that she's seen in movies...tame the wild beast and it all is easy and romantic and will end like Flicka or black beauty.
Good luck! I hope you can save her life
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