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        04-13-2012, 06:28 AM
      #21
    Showing
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by sjwrightauthor    
    I am going back up in the saddle later this morning. Hopefully all will go well.
    You definitely aren't a coward! But I highly recommend lessons :) With or without your boy a part of them, that will help with confidence!
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        04-13-2012, 08:14 AM
      #22
    Foal
    Once I get Mission moved to his new barn, I can bring in the trainer that I like. This morning I'm heading over to break the news that we're leaving our current barn, and I also plan on riding for a while in the round pen. If I can keep him from eating the tall grass growing in there.

    Wish me luck! And thanks to everybody for the encouragement. This forum really is a great source of support. It is also highly addictive! Hugs to you all and I'll let you know how it goes.
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        04-13-2012, 09:20 AM
      #23
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by mypets    
    Please don't call yourself a coward, you aren't that at all. Sometimes it just takes a while to get over your fear so take all the time you need to work it out. And don't let anyone push you into doing anything you don't feel ready for.
    /nods in 100% agreement
         
        04-13-2012, 01:03 PM
      #24
    Foal
    Ugh... another dismal failure. When I first got out there, I went back to see if there was anything going on out by the round pen and to see if the arena floor was done. It was! That's great, I thought.

    So I went down to the barn, got Mission out, picked out his hooves, brushed him and saddled him up. Right as I was putting the bridle on, two trucks drove by on the way up to the round pen/arena area. When I led him up there, they had the backhoe going (scary noise and weird yellow monster, according to Mission).

    So I just took him into the round pen and let him get used to the noise and stuff for a little while. After about fifteen minutes, he seemed totally relaxed. So I got on. As soon as my butt hit the saddle, the fear started sneaking up on me. He sensed it, and suddenly he was looking like the noisy yellow monsters outside the round pen were going to jump into the round pen and kill him.

    He turned his head to look at them, eyes as wide as saucers. My fear went through the roof. I dropped my stirrups. As soon as I did that, he took off across the round pen like a complete crackhead. I had reached out and grabbed onto the top rail of the fence right before he took off.

    So ONCE AGAIN, I was left dangling on the fence after having been dumped by this horse. I calmly caught him, took him back to the barn, unsaddled him and turned him loose in the small pasture.

    I realize that having the construction equipment out there was the real reason for him spooking, but what THE HELL? It seems like we're never going to be able to get this right.
         
        04-13-2012, 01:44 PM
      #25
    Weanling
    Do you lunge him much? I think you two need to start over build his trust in you. Lunge him back and forth set in front of him get the to stop and go the other direction. Get him doing bit circles and small ones. Just have fun working him in the round pen.
         
        04-13-2012, 01:53 PM
      #26
    Trained
    I feel your pain. It is really easy for me to get intimidated too. My horse is too spooky. I wonder if you should look into trading for an older, calmer horse. I know that I should, but I have so much invested in this horse, and she is what I wanted all my life. (Back when my body was younger......... )
         
        04-13-2012, 05:17 PM
      #27
    Showing
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by sjwrightauthor    
    So ONCE AGAIN, I was left dangling on the fence after having been dumped by this horse. I calmly caught him, took him back to the barn, unsaddled him and turned him loose in the small pasture.

    I realize that having the construction equipment out there was the real reason for him spooking, but what THE HELL? It seems like we're never going to be able to get this right.

    You'll get it! Believe me.. I should have recorded my rides on Sky when he was a looney bin. I couldn't even get on he'd spook so bad. And once I did get on he'd start prancing around without me and take off in a very all-over-the-place trot and I'd just have to sit and post with him (rather than setting the speed) but the goof boy never broke into a canter or hand gallop until later.. ;)

    It takes time and it takes a good trainer. Personally I'd spend some time on the ground with him. Don't ride him until he's an absolute angel on the ground and until you get a trainer to look at him.
         
        04-13-2012, 06:17 PM
      #28
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by sjwrightauthor    
    Ugh... another dismal failure. When I first got out there, I went back to see if there was anything going on out by the round pen and to see if the arena floor was done. It was! That's great, I thought.

    So I went down to the barn, got Mission out, picked out his hooves, brushed him and saddled him up. Right as I was putting the bridle on, two trucks drove by on the way up to the round pen/arena area. When I led him up there, they had the backhoe going (scary noise and weird yellow monster, according to Mission).

    So I just took him into the round pen and let him get used to the noise and stuff for a little while. After about fifteen minutes, he seemed totally relaxed. So I got on. As soon as my butt hit the saddle, the fear started sneaking up on me. He sensed it, and suddenly he was looking like the noisy yellow monsters outside the round pen were going to jump into the round pen and kill him.

    He turned his head to look at them, eyes as wide as saucers. My fear went through the roof. I dropped my stirrups. As soon as I did that, he took off across the round pen like a complete crackhead. I had reached out and grabbed onto the top rail of the fence right before he took off.

    So ONCE AGAIN, I was left dangling on the fence after having been dumped by this horse. I calmly caught him, took him back to the barn, unsaddled him and turned him loose in the small pasture.

    I realize that having the construction equipment out there was the real reason for him spooking, but what THE HELL? It seems like we're never going to be able to get this right.
    You are absolutely not a failure!! You did so many things RIGHT. I don't want to repeat myself because I posted a reply on the other thread "on a Mission" but I need to add something. Most gaited show horses don't do a lot of stopping, so he may not understand that you want to stop again so soon after you get on, but he can learn. Make stopping a pleasure for him by rubbing his neck or even just saying "easy" or "good boy" works.
    Start from the ground then get on and do it.

    Everyone who has ever ridden has experienced fear, but if you focus on something else, like your position, say keeping your legs relaxed and off his ribs, maybe you can get past it.

         
        04-13-2012, 06:58 PM
      #29
    Trained
    Something that helps me is to get my husband to hold my horse while I mount and for another minute or so. If she is doing really bad, he will lead me around on her until she settles down.
         
        04-14-2012, 05:12 PM
      #30
    Weanling
    I'm sorry you are going through this. Boy can I relate to so many of the feelings.

    I don't know how attached you are to Mission and I don't want to sound like I'm telling you to sell him. But I've really realized a lot of things about myself in the past few months and what I like and don't like. I thought I liked gaited horses. I thought for sure I would be buying a gaited horse when the time came. They have the reputation for being such good beginner horses.

    But IMO, (and this is my humble opinion only) I don't feel comfortable on them. Sure the ride is more comfy and a good gaited horse makes you feel like you are gliding or skating on ice. It's amazing the difference. But their mannerisms ultimately make me nervous. I don't like the feeling like they are in a hurry to get everywhere. I don't like the head carriage and bobbing thing. The impulsion (or whatever you call it) makes me feel like they are about to bolt even though they aren't. I've spent the last few months switching back and forth between gaited and non and while I do enjoy gaited horses from the ground and I appreciate them for what they do, I realized they are just a bit much for this old bird. I don't feel 100% comfortable around them. I want to hit the trails at a steady walk and occasional trot. The gait left my stomach all churny.

    Is is possible that this is what is happening to you? Maybe the feel of a different, slower gait will make you more comfortable and relaxed? Fear just kills the whole experience. There is really no point in riding if you are going to be fearful all the time. On the other hand,it's possible that it's not the horse at all. It's just something you need to work on for yourself.
    But I know for me personally, the horse I ride makes all the difference in the world in my confidence level. An experienced rider can hop on most any horse and make it work. I'm nowhere near that level yet. For now, I need to be riding a horse I'm comfortable on first and foremost. Then I can work on my riding skills and confidence.
    Just a thought. Best of luck to you!
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