Dealing with the Timid Rider
HELP! About a year or so ago, we got a new girl start boarding at our barn. She owns an off the track thoroughbred, but she is about 10 years old, and VERY mello. I have never seen her buck, kick, or rear. Anyways, this girl started riding with us last summer, and it was immediately obvious she was a bit green. She had trouble controlling her horse, and anything she did wrong as a rider she blamed the mare for. This year we have began trail riding on trails around the barn. The first trip we went on, this girl tagged along and ended up complaining the whole time about how her horse hated trail riding, and how he was misbehaving, and how we need to go back to the field. The second time, she wouldn't make him cross the creek because she was afraid the water was too deep for him, even though I crossed it easily on my 14 hand gelding. We all had to turn back because she kept making all of these excuses. We suggested that she swap horses with somebody who is stronger, but she refused, so none of us could go where we wanted because she wouldn't cross. The third time, she wouldn't walk in water any deeper than her horses ankle deep because she claimed her mare didn't like it, she wouldn't go up steep hills because her mate couldn't make it(even though my friend did on her pony), and she wouldn't go down steep hills because she said the saddle hurts her horse going down. She has made up various other excuses too. She finally let someone on her horse this third ride, and the mare was an angel. Did EVERYTHING right on a posse rein. Even lead, followed, and walked in the middle of horses. This girl keeps such a tight rein on this horse all the time for no reason and she has a dry severe bit on her. Any help? I don't know what to do. I wish I could just stop bringing her on rides, but she always gets to the barn the same time as us, and she just tags along and makes us suffer for her fear. I was a timid rider once too, and understand her fear, but I always made sure that nobody else suffered from it.