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    03-15-2012, 07:48 PM
  #31
Trained
I don't understand.

She doesn't sound like she's having fun on the trail rides. Why does she keep coming along?

She doesn't sound like people enjoy having her there. Why does she still get invites?
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    03-15-2012, 07:52 PM
  #32
Trained
I think she just is there and they feel sorry for her and she tags along
If I was with them I would lead her through the streams and the trail providing
The trail was wide enough
     
    03-15-2012, 07:54 PM
  #33
Trained
I think she needs some lessons in a ring to gain confidence then
Gradually be out on the trail

BTW how old is the young lady
     
    03-15-2012, 08:22 PM
  #34
Green Broke
When I learned to ride on the trails it was shut up and hang on. Never was on crazy horses, but they had get up and go and I would have been left behind if I didnt just hang on, face my fear, and go along for the ride. Before long I started to enjoy my self.
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    03-15-2012, 08:23 PM
  #35
Foal
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Originally Posted by kevinshorses    
I'd have a long talk with her parents first. After all they are the ones that would decide to sue you or not.
i think this would be a great idea especially in this situation. Not just for liability, but parenting may have a lot to do with her acting the way she does. Maybe she's spoiled and gets everything her way. If that's the case, yea she probly needs someone to tell her if she can't handle the ride, she needs to stay at the barn. Or maybe her parents are hard on her or just don't do much for her. If that's the case, that would explain her not being able to trust the horse, and she needs someone to show a little compassion and help her out.

I didnt have much parenting growing up, so the people that taught me to ride and helped me with everything really made a difference.
     
    03-16-2012, 04:16 PM
  #36
Foal
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Originally Posted by ls6firebird    
im glad people didnt have that outlook when I was learning to ride
me too!
     
    03-16-2012, 04:22 PM
  #37
Foal
Just my two cents...I am back into riding after over twenty years off. I have my first horse. I realize now that everything I thought I knew about riding was nothing but ego and being invincibable and a know it all as I was "that age."
I am now at a barn where the barn owner and the boarders are beyond kind. They are teaching me everything I need to know and working with me on area where I lack confidence. They don't take the big hills right now because they know I am still working my way up, they don't cantor through the trails the entire time because they know I am not there yet. With their patience...I am becoming a confident rider and I get better every single time they take me out. They have made me feel comfortable enough that I can express to them when I am not comfortable. This girl has probably not been made to feel welcome or comfortable enough to express that she is afraid.
After reading this string...makes me so grateful to be at this barn with these kind and patient women ...who btw are always telling me that they did not always know how to ride up hills and through creeks either!
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    03-16-2012, 04:27 PM
  #38
Foal
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Originally Posted by Mellow Mel    
Just my two cents...I am back into riding after over twenty years off. I have my first horse. I realize now that everything I thought I knew about riding was nothing but ego and being invincibable and a know it all as I was "that age."
I am now at a barn where the barn owner and the boarders are beyond kind. They are teaching me everything I need to know and working with me on area where I lack confidence. They don't take the big hills right now because they know I am still working my way up, they don't cantor through the trails the entire time because they know I am not there yet. With their patience...I am becoming a confident rider and I get better every single time they take me out. They have made me feel comfortable enough that I can express to them when I am not comfortable. This girl has probably not been made to feel welcome or comfortable enough to express that she is afraid.
After reading this string...makes me so grateful to be at this barn with these kind and patient women ...who btw are always telling me that they did not always know how to ride up hills and through creeks either!
this is how its supposed to be. Take some time and help the people who need it, and then down the road when they gain experience, you have another friend to ride with
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    03-16-2012, 05:48 PM
  #39
Foal
That is exactly how I see it....I just called my barnmates and thanked them for being so wonderful.
     
    03-16-2012, 06:04 PM
  #40
Green Broke
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this is how its supposed to be. Take some time and help the people who need it, and then down the road when they gain experience, you have another friend to ride with
this is ideal, but until you are willing to admit your afraid and face that, no one can help and you can't improve. My little sister is very timid, and i'm having to take extra time with her, but she never blames her horse and will listen when you tell her its ok, she can do it. Another beginner rider on the farm is the same way. I have had the experience of working with a rider who blames the horse and wont take advice. It was not fun for any one, including the horse.
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