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post #1 of 15 Old 07-27-2012, 10:22 PM Thread Starter
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Depressed and discouraged

I had a not so good day at work and was hoping that me and my gelding would go for a nice short trail ride. He started walking backwards into traffic again and after several passes I got off and wlked him. After we got past the road it was a fight to keep him from eating grass. I had a crop with me and the first time he stopped to eat I whacked him and that worked. The second time I wacked him he kicked me right in the groin/pubic bone. I gave up and hand walked him back to the barn. I know I should have made him work but just was not feeling up to it. What do you guys do when you just don't feel like dealing with your horses ##it but feel guilty if you don't do something with them? Does anyone ever feel like this? It seems like everyone on here is so horse crazy and I used to be too but I am too old to handle getting hurt alot.
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post #2 of 15 Old 07-27-2012, 10:30 PM
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How did he kick you? Were you standing by his butt when you whacked him?

Does your horse normally trail ride well? Sometimes I come home and want nothing more than a trail ride, but then I remember that sometimes trail riding can be a tough amount of work and training if the horse is feeling "that way". When I'm feeling bad, I completely avoid starting "battles". To me, attempting a trail ride with little warm-up and then playing "whack a mole" sounds like you're looking for a fight that you won't win. Often times I will simply groom and ride for 15 minutes in the arena, just trotting and cantering on a loose rein. That way both of us are in a low-tension environment while still getting a little exercise.
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post #3 of 15 Old 07-27-2012, 10:40 PM Thread Starter
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Ohvairoh...good advice. wish I wuld have done that but I was all hell bent on riding into the sunset and leaving the world behind. lol. I should know better then to try to get n my horse when I'm in a bad mood. I hoped he would be good and I could escape what I was dealing with but instead he made it worse and that was my fault.
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post #4 of 15 Old 07-27-2012, 10:43 PM
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I think horses can be a great escape from the pressures of life, but you need to think even more clearly about what your "plan" will be. I never depend on my horses to be in a "good mood", lol, but I know what they are capable of and what might set them/me off. Sometimes less is more. A lot of time I neglect doing my lateral flexion exercises and hip arounds, because they are so simple and "boring". But boring is perfect for when I'm feeling frustrated. I've done entire hours where all I did was sit in the middle of the arena on my horse with a rope halter and just flexed him, practiced hip disengagements, and tooled around. And the best part is, the next day the work goes much smoother!

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post #5 of 15 Old 07-27-2012, 10:44 PM
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It sounds like you bit off more than you were ready for.

Bad days sometimes get better with a ride, but most of the time it's best to keep it simple because horses will test and they know when we're having a bad day lol..

Those days you should leave both feet on the ground and just spend time with your horse.

Just my opinion.

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I don't know what to say because I always go out on Rusty when I'm in a bad mood. We ride down the road, usually bareback, and I babble until I'm babbled out. My guess is that some horses are probably more sensitive to feelings than others.

My suggestion to you: Instead of riding, why not lead your horse around a take a walk? Or you could graze him or just sit on his back. How about riding around the arena?

It works for me and my horse because my horse doesn't fear traffic and is most relaxed doing this. You just have to find something that is good for the both of you.

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post #7 of 15 Old 07-29-2012, 02:15 PM
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Your horse doesn't respect you basically, or wouldn't be trying to snatch grass, and darn sure would not "correct" you, after you tried to correct him. He won this battle, and I imagine he wins most, if not all of them, you just aren't catching that battles are being joined.

You don't need to be riding this horse outside of enclosed area until you are in charge. That means from ground as well as mounted.

From haltering, leading, unhaltering, feeding, and handling, horse is more than likely giving off signs that you are missing, and if you are a babier, or a soother, you are actually helping to create this.

And if horse kicked me? He would have a HCTJM so darn fast, he would have thought hounds of hell were after him. He won this battle.

Toughen up, and make this horse behave, learn more about how to read a horse, and how to be the leader, and if you are babier/soother, AND have a high pitched voice? Quit all of that and be more General George Patton with horse.

And next time you correct, make it count, especially if horse decides to win one for the team and kicks you.

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post #8 of 15 Old 07-29-2012, 07:46 PM Thread Starter
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• Horses: 0 if you got kicked in the groin after having a bad day already and just wanted to cry, would you still have the balls to kick this horses ass? If so you are much tougher than me. I am a mechanic and go toe to toe with the guys. I am not a babier sometimes I think I am too harsh. I never want to cry but that night I did. I thought I was tough but I guess soetimes just not tough enough. I respect you for being what I cannot be. :)
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I would have gone into a fit of rage and made extremely good use of the crop. It is a character flaw that I have. My horses don't tend to kick me again.

Your horse just wanted to take your mind off of your problems at work. And he did just that. It really does suck to get kicked. Hang in there.
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post #10 of 15 Old 07-30-2012, 10:46 PM Thread Starter
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Celeste I was already down and out and not in the mood for a fight but I LOVE your perspective because it definately took my mind off of everything else. It was like one of those God moments that it occurs to us that the bad thing that happened was to teach us how to be better or keeps us from something worse. I always like your posts and have to tell you that my daughter has the same name as you.
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