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post #11 of 17 Old 08-23-2013, 09:03 PM
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Personally, your e-mail would put you at the bottom of the list. Taffy's e-mail example would elicit a positive response from me.

I don't want a rider to try to tell me what they do or don't know. I will make that decision myself. My first lesson with a new student is very long and it is used as a diagnostic tool to find out where they are and what they know. Most of the time the first lesson is half price and I will not make a decision of whether or not I will take you on as a student until after that lesson.

I don't care if you are not a great rider. All I care about is attitude and a willingness to absorb and learn. My time is too short to waste it on someone who makes excuses and will not try to apply what I teach.

You e-mail makes it sound as though you will be one of those who will be making excuses. Even if you are not, that is the impression given. I have more students than I have time for, sometimes, and I will turn away any who I feel will be no fun to teach.

So, consider using Taffy's example!
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post #12 of 17 Old 08-23-2013, 10:59 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for your responses.

I felt emailing was my best choice at that time of the night. I would feel horrible if I had called, and the barn and house phones were connected. Since I am just putting feelers out in looking for a new barn, if they do not reply, it is not a big deal, as I could possibly try again later on. The reasoning for the feelers is that it would be best that the coach and I mesh, as well as the barn being a good fit.

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post #13 of 17 Old 08-24-2013, 09:28 AM
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OP, why not just sign up for a lesson and see how it goes? Its not a marriage contract - if you like the lesson, you have your answer.

When I taught, it couldn't matter less to me how the student viewed themselves; what mattered was how I judged their skill level on a horse and what I had to offer them. After all, isn't this why you are paying someone? To help you further your skills and add new tools to your toolbox?

I've had students claim many things, both positive and negative, that weren't accurate. Let the trainer do what she's best at - what you're paying her for.

And honestly, if I received that email, I would label you as someone I wouldn't want to work with. As others have said, my time is precious and I want to work with people who are looking to learn everything they can from me. Your email makes you sound like you need coddling, and while I pride myself on being a positive teacher, I can't stand whiners, and the email sounds like you could potentially be high-maintenance, and not worth the aggro.

QUOTE: "My favourite people to take lessons with are the ones that are able to laugh at their mistakes, but still be slightly perfectionists about their riding." Save this for your diary. Don't imply that a potential instructor is or isn't any of these things. The potential trainer couldnt care less at this point whether they fit into your preferred mold.

Just go and take a lesson and try the trainer on for size. The rest is hubris and will do exactly the opposite of what you intended.
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post #14 of 17 Old 08-24-2013, 01:17 PM
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I would audit a lesson. This will give you a good idea about how the trainer works, and if /you/ feel like you two will click. It will also give you an opportunity to chat in person.

You can also just schedule a lesson. But I think you're over thinking this.
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post #15 of 17 Old 08-24-2013, 01:31 PM
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I'm with Taffy... less is more.

All my trainers have wanted to know prior to meeting, was did I own a horse and age/breed or did I want to use lesson horses, did I own proper riding gear and if not, I needed to buy boots, half chaps and a helmet and what times did my schedule allow for lessons.

First lesson was lunge line (or lunge line for a bit, then riding on my own) and we proceeded from there as they then KNEW what my riding skills were. I did have one trainer that personally lunged my horse prior to beginning my first lesson (green 4yr old horse, I think she wanted to make sure he wasn't some kind of nightmare that would kill me during the first lesson.... LOL).
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post #16 of 17 Old 08-24-2013, 06:10 PM
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I think it was a bit much information.

If you haven't met her then how do you know you want her as an instructor? You've already told her everything about you, and it makes it sound like you're a bit desperate for a lesson. You're the one who should choose the riding instructor, not the instructor that chooses the student.

I don't think there is a problem with you emailing, as others have said. But I'd keep it short, saying you're looking to do weekly lessons, if you have an opening, can you organise a short trial lesson or something.
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post #17 of 17 Old 08-28-2013, 11:17 AM
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Are there are a few trainers in your area to try out? I'd just give someone a call and ask for a lesson. Agreed with the others, no need to give a detailed description of every aspect of your riding. All the info I'm looking for in a new student is height/weight so I know what size horse to put them on and what height they've been jumping (although that doesn't mean they'll be jumping that in my lesson). A 30 private tells me pretty much all I need to know about a rider and a few lessons with a trainer should tell you if it's a good match for you or not. A lot of trainers are not tech savvy and too busy to read a lengthy email. But anyone can answer a quick test/call to set up a lesson.
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