Seraphina is a novice by her own words. As such, she is blaming the horse for being a problem when she is the only one having a problem yet not admitting that she could have any part in it aside from not being able to have a whip.
Who put the burr under your blanket? Have you actually read the rest of the thread, or did you stop with your response to the original post? Especially the parts where I talked about how this horse is considered to have bad manners on the ground for everyone?
I didn't say that I have no part in this other than not having a whip, and from your first post back to me, it was clear that you'd fixated on the whip and made a bunch of assumptions that I thought I should have one, which I didn't, and I pointed this out to you.
IMO, reading back on her posts in other threads and on this one, she doesn't have the experience. - I've read her blaming a horse for lameness, or the wrong saddle - never her riding. She has an instructor who should, again IMO and based on this thread, be more involved with the problem and either gave her a different horse to work with or the instructor has a purpose that we are not getting.
When have I blamed
a horse for having a bad saddle fit? Go back and look at the title of that thread - asking if it's the rider, the saddle, or the horse. Go back and look at the last post in that thread, as well, where I concluded it by saying that the issue was a combination of saddle fit and issues coming up from the lameness, and and that the instructor had taught me how to deal with it by using an advanced (her words) technique with my seat.
In the vast, vast majority of horses with problems, it stems back to the rider - especially a novice rider. When a horse is "bad" only for one rider - it is the rider.
Again, what part of "this horse has bad manners on the ground for everyone" and "farrier hates working on it" says that I am the only one with problems riding this horse?
Beginners do not have the experience to actually know how a really good horse feels and why another horse doesn't feel the same way. They may think they do but most have not yet had that "ah ha" moment when it comes together. Too many new riders are not yet horsemen but want to be or think they are because they know the terminology. That only comes from a great deal of experience. That being the case, always blame the rider not the horse until someone much more capable can tell the difference.
Now you're rolling a bunch of your assumptions together, and
ignoring what I said about the instructor being aware that this horse gives trouble. What makes you think that I'm trying to come off as a more experienced rider than I am? I've been perfectly clear this whole time that I'm a novice. I have been dealing with this horse's bad manners for FOUR MONTHS. I have already BEEN through the "maybe this is my fault" thing, more times than I can count. I have been through it with my instructor, who has said, and I quote "Usually it's something the rider is doing, but this is 90% the horse."
FOUR MONTHS OF TWICE-WEEKLY LESSONS DOES NOT COUNT AS A "COUPLE OF RIDES".
I'm an experienced rider and I've gotten rid of a fair share of horses that didn't work for me. In my case the horses either didn't have the ability I was looking for or the disposition I needed - (but I've got a lifetime of riding horses and ownership for over 30 years). That can't always be seen with just a couple of rides while trying out a horse. The difference here is that the OP is a beginner and as such, doesn't have the experience to know the difference.
And while I am a novice rider learning English, I have been riding horses on and off for 35 years and grew up around them.
Can a novice rider have a horse that doesn't work for them? Certainly, but you don't come on here calling the horse a nag and if it were theirs, they would send it to slaughter.
This is all my 2˘ so take it for what it's worth to you.
Since you evidently didn't bother to read anything in the OP other than the word "whip" and immediately went off the deep end with your assumptions (many of which are not substantiated) and judgmental attitude, and have offered no actual advice, your $0.02 is not worth much to me. If you weren't clear on the situation, which it is obvious that you were not, you should have asked a few questions to get a better idea of what was going on before jumping all over me.