Please help me settle this argument I had with my father. When I was 11 years old, my Dad took his family horseback riding to a stable with a route. It was My Dad, my older brother, me, and my little sister. It was NOT a pleasant experience. Without any training, or instructions, they put me on a horse ironically named, "Gentleman" and from the beginning, I thought the horse was belligerent and uncooperative. He (the horse) was unruly, and kept wanting to turn back around. I tried pulling on the reins, and several times, he tried to bite me on the shins. I tried talking to the horse, and even gave it a light slap on the butt. Eventually, not even a quarter a way around the route, the horse simply ran back around to the beginning, me barely ably to stay on. I was terrified, and the hired hand helped me off the horse. Seconds after thankfully being back on solid ground, I heard my 9-year-old sister, screaming in terror...her horse also ran back around, and she had to be helped off, still crying and clearly frightened.
On the way home from this frightening experience, my father told me and my sister that it was our fault and we should have taken control of the horse. He argued that his horse didn't give him any trouble. "You've got to show the horse who's boss" to a 9 year old girl and an 11 year old boy versus a 600 pound animal.
Recently, the subject came up again, and when my father once again blamed me and my sister for not taking control of the horse, I BLEW UP at him. I called him a coward, and said instead of having the balls to confront the owner of the stables, get in his face, and say, something like, "HEY, WHAT KIND OF ANIMALS YOU PUTTIN' MY KIDS ON?" he simply took the cowards way out and blamed us. To this day, I am have Equinophobia and blame my father for it. Please give your opinion.