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    08-29-2012, 10:26 PM
  #41
Trained
My first riding experience was when I was seven years old. My best friend's dad took the two of us to a stable to ride some ponies. They didn't want to leave the barn. We would switch, kick, beg, and plead until they would go about 100 yards away from the barn. Then they would trot rapidly back to the barn. I thought that it was the most glorious experience of my life.

If you go into riding, be aware that this is a dangerous sport. We get bucked off. We fall. We get kicked, bitten, slobbered on, and knocked over. I am 54 years old and I took a pretty hard fall recently. I dusted myself off, got back up and rode. I don't want die sitting in a rocking chair, knitting. I know that there is a big risk. And I love riding.

By the way, being a parent is not that easy. When I taught my son to drive, I stayed in panic mode. I screamed when he approached red lights. I was totally sure he would wreck and kill us all. He didn't. He also is not mad at me for being hysterical while he was learning to drive.
     
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    08-30-2012, 11:27 AM
  #42
Foal
The first time I rode I almost got trampled. And I wasn't even on the horse yet. I was out in the paddock with my instructor to get my pony and a temperamental stallion kept following me around. My instructor just told me to ignore him. He wasn't too pleased about that. He reared up, knocking me in the back with his knees as he came up, and I fell to the ground. I rolled out just in time or he would have landed on me.

And guess what? I still got on. I had a fantastic ride. I was probably less freaked out than I should have been, but then again I've never been too scared of horses. All the same I got on and had a great ride. The second time I rode the horse took off cantering with me. I could hardly steer my horse in a circle and he was cantering at what I presumed to be the speed of light. I was 10. But I didn't get freaked out and refuse to get back on. Instead, my mindset afterward became 'okay, so I don't know how to do this. Better learn how, then!' After all, regardless of what you'd like to believe the rider still is the one who controls the horse.

My point is that things happen. Riding horses is a dangerous sport. Horses do have a mind of their own. They sometimes take off, they buck, they kick, they refuse, they spook. If you ride you're going to bite the dust sometimes and you're going to have to learn how to deal with all types of horses. The place you rode at probably wasn't too professional but why let that ruin it for you? And why blame your dad? He's right, you do have to control the horse.

Good for you for deciding to take lessons. But remember, (and this is VERY important to remember) horses are not robots. When you get on, you accept the risks. That's how it works. And yes, you are expected to learn how to control a 1200 lb animal. You may not be perfect at riding at first, but if you're willing to learn that's what matters. It's a package deal. Don't expect to get on a horse that can read your mind and do everything you want him to.
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    09-16-2012, 08:47 PM
  #43
Foal
I am a newbie, I gravitated to this topic because I felt sorry for the OP. I think it was a frightening first ride and the Dad made it worse by blaming the bad experience on the children. Of course it was not the fault of the children. If you don't know horses or what to expect, how can you be expected to control them? Many adults would have no idea how to control that situation. Maybe all the OP needed from the Dad was a hug and some reassurance and encouragement instead of added humiliation. I don't blame the OP for blowing up at the Dad years later.
     
    09-16-2012, 09:46 PM
  #44
Showing
I can sympathize with the OP. I never ever spoke back to my father or defended myself over unwarranted comments until I was an adult. Both of my parents were university educated so whenever I had trouble learning something I'd turn to one of them, only to be dismissed, that I was smart and that I could do it. Except it didn't always happen and my marks weren't up to what they thought I was capable of. Also I was badly in need of corrective lenses both for reading and distance. These were denied me for several years. As my eyesight changed my ability to study diminished as the page was continually going in and out of focus. Fast forward. I am now an adult about 30 yrs old. We were visiting my father's sister, a soft spoken kindly lady. Her kids (my cousins) were all medical professionals. Suddenly my father spoke up and told my aunt that I always had horses on the brain. That's when I lost it and told him how wrong he was, that I had struggled in school and was denied help time and again. You could have heard a pin drop. The look on his face was utter shock. I don't think so much that I'd defended myself but that he'd failed me.
     
    09-17-2012, 09:11 AM
  #45
Trained
My parents did a lot of things wrong. They also did a lot of things right. I wonder how much stuff my kids think I did wrong? A lot I am sure.
     
    09-17-2012, 12:37 PM
  #46
Started
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Originally Posted by Mckellar    
Is this a real post.... Sorry, that's the first thing that comes to mind
i was thinking troll possibly
     
    09-17-2012, 01:56 PM
  #47
Yearling
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Originally Posted by Critter sitter    
i was thinking troll possibly
Considering the OP hasn't logged in since 08/29 I'd say you were correct.
     

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