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post #1 of 4 Old 08-02-2009, 03:25 PM Thread Starter
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falling apart advice needed

Hey guys,

I am new here, and really everything is falling apart. i will start at the beginning and try and explain.

i started riding year and a half ago,all was prertty weel got trot reasonably easy. Moved to another yard and got privates, that then closed down.(was riding an old school master there)
Now riding at a new yard been there about 7 months, started off great gave everything a go. got put on a more forward going horse, came off he kicked my in the head and i ended up in hospital. notrode him since got put back on my old trust girl.
was out in the field a few weeks ago with another horse who took off 3 times with me i swear i coudlnt stop him. in the end i freaked out and i got off him.

i been walk /trot/canter usually.

ok so the problem is i cant get this new horse to canter with me i sit way to forward and get freaked out every time i ask for canter and cease up . any suggestions to help me get over this. its really getting me upset cause i know i can do it , but with this horse i cant
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post #2 of 4 Old 08-02-2009, 03:45 PM
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Mind over matter, I've been close to your position but for different reasons. I had a horse that I was so scared to canter that it caused me to cry. Tell your instructor that you're not comfortable with cantering anymore and that you want to ride a school horse. The school horse will help you get your confidence back. Unfortunantly, you have to go back to square one and start all over with cantering. What I find helps if your scared is to babble on to your horse about nothing in particular or hum or sing your favorite song.

The sitting forward is fixable by telling yourself that you need to lean back. If it makes you feel better, grab a little of your horse's mane to hold on to, but don't lean forward. The only problem with grabbing the mane is that it restricts your control of the reins.

I hope that helps, and ride with someone else next to you. Or when you go to canter count to three and just do it. Like I said, I hope that helps you.

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post #3 of 4 Old 08-02-2009, 03:49 PM
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My advice? DON'T CANTER. Falling/injuring yourself/being bolted off with can scare the living daylights out of a person. And sometimes it takes a very long time to get back to what you used to do (I'm talking years). Faith takes a lot longer to repair than a broken bone or bruised butt. What you need to work on in the meantime with your Ole Faithful is having a good seat, 100% percent of the time. At the walk. Do balance exercises. Work on your seat until you learn how to attach your butt to her like velcro (bareback lessons are wonderful). THEN move to a trot on her. Same deal. Perfect the seat before you try for more speed. Leaning forward will only encourage him to run off (though for the life of my, why would they put you on a horse that bolts is beyond me! That's dangerous! A bolter is NOT a lesson horse). Plus, if you're nervous (and trust me, even a little feeling of butterflies when you contemplate cantering will be something he'll pick up on), it's going to key him up in an instant. And do any schooling in a ring or confined space - some horses see the Great Outdoors as a picnic out and act like it's recess.

In a nutshell? Ditch the bolter for now. Go back to the ole Plug. Perfect your seat, perfect your hands, perfect your self-control. When you do that, you'll regain your faith in your abilities, you won't be nervous.

And also - some horses... you may not ever be comfortable doing anything more than a trot on. Don't worry about it. You push yourself just because "I should be able to do this!", you're gonna get a few new lessons in gravity.

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i am absolutelyfine on other horses rode a few and can do it it just seems to me that i cant getover this with this one horse!!.. he took off while i was up the field with him, he is not a bolter in the lessons, he has sweet itch and the flys were annoyin him up the field. and he took off, he is not bad or horrible actuallyhe is quite a gent.

thank you all very much for your advice. My instructor is taking my stirrups away next sunday and making me work without them, totally agree its mind over matter, and for somereason i got a block. i been bucked kicked thrown off but its never made me feel like this. I cry alot and get upset when i cant get it cause its soo frustrating caseu i know i can do it. I cme our my group lesson and am now in privates to try and get to grips with this stupid thing in my head.
I cant go back to old horsethat i feel safe with cause i can ride her, and jump her its just this new horse i cant get to grips with.

Thansk guys for your advice it doesnt make me feel so bad now xx
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