im saying that I can ride anything just all the horses I have come across have been safe other wise I wouldn't have be allowed to ride them, im just wondering if my friends fears are rational?
We can't tell you if your friends fears are or are not rational. We don't know them. It's not our place - OR yours to tell them if their fears are rational or not.
Everyone is different. Some people are stupid and will get on any horse. Some people won't get on the calmest of horses for whatever reason.
That said, I'm not 'fearless' when it comes to horses. Fearless with horses = stupid. I won't just hop up on any random horse. I like to handle a horse on the ground to get a feel for it before riding.
There is a difference between spooky and crazy. I'll ride a spooky horse without much worry, but a truly crazy horse needs some more thinking on my part.
If it's a responsible riding school they won't let you get on a horse that's way beyond your abilities to handle. If your instructor is sane and experienced then it's not too much to ask of your friends to ride the horses they're told to. Still it is their choice to refuse; it just means they won't reach the level of experience other riders might.
Outside of a lesson situation... No, I personally wouldn't get on just any horse.
I used to think I could ride anything when I was 17. Oh, he rears? Let me at him!! Lol. Thankfully I was never injured.
I got Spike when I was 21, and was a very bold rider, loved to race. Took all kinds of risks I won't even mention here!
Things changed when I had my daughter at age 29. Had to take care of myself for her sake. Now I will not get on a horse that is known to rear or buck. Used to ride without a helmet, now I never mount without it.
So I Used to be fearless. I was probably a better rider then too. But my priorities had to change, and I've no regrets. Still got Spike who is generally quite steady. When my kids are grown and don't need me as much anymore, who knows? Maybe I'll get myself a fiery 3 yr old, lol!
Let me tell you that you will never go back to being care free around young inexperienced horses no matter your age.... you have now matured into better decision making horsemanship... congrats...
Btw if not worried about your kids anymore, you get grandchildren then !! Always trust your new matured judgement :) ride safe and kuddo's to you for helmet gear... you did hear about courtney king a young talented dressage rider who suffered head injury this past mo? No helmet!!!! Hmmmm
It is a long serious recovery after head injury... and sometimes with limited return to normal life , like eating , drinking, bathing and getting dressed.
You gain a healthy respect for what you are doing with the knowledge of what you are doing. I used to get on rank horses when I was younger. Now, I can look at a horse and know why he is rank within a few minutes of being around him. I can fix the problem before getting on his back, so why would I risk my neck jumping up and hanging on.
Now, I work with horses and people for a living, if I get hurt, I either have to work through it or take a pay cut. Its not worth it to be fearless anymore.
As far as riding "tricky" horses, sure, no problem. If done correctly, that is how you become a better rider. My goal with every horse is to be able to have that horse give me the best that it has at the time that I'm asking it. Overtime, we raise the bar.
I would never get on just any horse. Like others' have said, if I know nothing about a horse, I'll work with it on the ground for a while before I do any type of riding with it. You should never fear a horse, itself that will only cause dangerous situations to arise. You need to be smart about them, and know what to do. The most important thing is to recognize potential issues that could cause a dangerous situation, and catch it before it causes a dangerous situation. Also, along those lines, you should be able to read a horses' body language and recognize when they could, at any time, make a calm situation extremely dangerous.
Aside from that, the only stupid thing that I do, is I don't wear a helmet. I know I should but I don't. One of these days something going to snap in my head and I'll start wearing one...hopefully whatever snaps is mental and not physical though. Lol