So, I'm taking lessons (English) and I have a problem like that: Sometimes I just start to feel very unsure while riding. I know I'm a person who needs to control everything, especially the things related my physical well-being and health. So you can believe that an idea about an uncontrollable horse, falling down/slipping with a horse and hurting myself is pretty scary and makes me nervous, not all the time but every now and then.
I've sometimes had periods when I've been afraid of riding and I think it's a some kind of borderline case now + some general unsureness included. I changed a stable in the previous autumn and after some of the lesson horses bolted a bit with me at s new stable (haven't ridden a bolted horse at the previous stable for a while and actually I've never ridden a badly bolted case either). Everything turned out well, I didn't even fall but all that still left me a bit leery.
I usually feel a bit tense when I get on a saddle nowdays. I still think that the biggest problem is that if the horse shows any signs of turning even a bit wild or uncontrollable, I get nervous and start to predict. Lets think that the horse for example decides to take up canter at a point A herself, without me asking it. If that happens, I turn nervous and think "oh well, now she's obviously found that the point A is a place to take up a canter and the next time I ride that point she'll surely do it again, then turn uncontrollable or has actually already turned a bit because she took up a canter without me asking it. The next time I'll fall and hurt myself". And then of course the horse senses my unsureness, turns too brisk and goes for the way I predicted. It feels worse if our group is outside having a trail riding or if we for example jump because I feel it turns the situation more dangerous to me. About the general unsureness I mentioned, sometimes I just start feel that "oh well, I can't make that horse to do the thing I'm asking her to do" and of course the horse senses my unsureness again and doesn't do what I'm asking her to do. That was very bad few years ago, I just managed to do almost nothing with the horse but it has turned a way better nowadays.
At a previous stable, I usually mentioned the teacher if I had some of my fear periods so she could give me calmer horses and knew about it anyways. I haven't still told about that to my new teacher at a new stable because I don't feel that way all the time but this fear and general unsureness pops up every now and then, so I don't have "these days" every time I'm riding. The only exception is that very light tension which has existed almost all the time after those horses bolted at this new stable. I've anyways decided to tell about my tension and fear if it turns worse.
Anyways, any else unsure or fearful riders here? How you get along with your unsureness/fear? Any tips, how you manage to calm yourself down when you start to fear in a saddle?