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    06-13-2011, 04:54 AM
Question Freakin' Etiquette Dilemma.

Alright, I admit it, I do it to myself. I get myself into these jams and must stop doing so.

Anyhoo, the snaffoo:

I contacted my instructor from last year for lessons but it took ages for her to respond so I contacted her previous working student who is two minutes away to see if she'd be interested. She's just started teaching, is cheaper, closer with less students and not on Canada's short-list [ie. Not too busy with riding/showing although she does both]).

The first instructor in the meantime got back to me and I have a lesson booked. The next day the second instructor replied that she'd be keen to give lessons.

I want to ride with them both. Has this ever been attempted!? I want the first coach twice a month and the second coach 6 times a month. I've never heard of people being coached by more than one instructor unless it was a clinic situation, so I think I'll probably just have to choose? ...or can it be done?

Both are dressage. Also my family is shunning me for using my instructor from last year since my sister is riding with her this year (unfair family frickin' drama and I'm 30!), so the second coach will be drama free, which is a mega plus.

Advice please!
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    06-13-2011, 05:57 AM
Course you can go to two instructors!! I do :)
Some are better in certain areas and no strong strong in others. So as long as you find two that will compliment the training you're getting from both, then you'll probably end up being a more versatile and skilled rider for it.
As I said, just make sure they train in a similar style, there's no point going to one and riding in a particular way, then going to the other and having them tell you that you're doing it all wrong and change completely. Then you'll just be stuck and never progress.
    06-13-2011, 07:09 AM
Thanks, Kayty. Good to know there are people out there with more than one instructor. I think I'll take a lesson with the second coach also this week to see how it goes, perhaps I'm getting ahead of myself without riding with the second coach beforehand. I just didn't want to ruffle anyone's ego-feathers.
    06-13-2011, 07:12 AM
If a coach genuinely holds concern and interest in their students progression as a rider, they won't have an issue with that student seeing someone else as well. A coach isn't going to be brilliant in every area, plus when you get someone seeing the horse on a regular basis that start to get used to how that horse travels and start to miss some things. So seeing someone else will increase the chances of things being picked up and corrected in your riding.
    06-13-2011, 07:31 AM
That's my reasoning too. I'm only returning to riding after living in Melbourne for 9 years, so wasn't exactly sure the etiquette involved these days back home here. Seeing as both instructors are close friends and have ridden extensively together, I'm hoping it can remain professional and not personal, and work ultimately in my favour.
    06-13-2011, 07:35 AM
First of all, yes, there is nothing wrong going with 2 instructors (if you can afford ). And in the end you don't know yet if you'll like/progress with the 2nd one, right? As for family drama - if that's the only reason you go with the old instructor, I'd just tell the family "No" and do what you wanna do (as far as I understand you pay for lessons yourself given your age).
    06-13-2011, 07:53 AM
Yes, Kitten_Val, I most certainly do pay for my lessons, lol. Imagine a 30 year old who didn't? I know they're out there, probably lurking between money trees and living in their parents basement.

As for family, I'm decidedly at the point where I'm going to make myself happy and do what I want, but less drama the better.

Yep, I agree, getting ahead of myself. I've contacted the second coach to set up a lesson. If everyone goes well, I'll let both know I'm riding with the other.

I'll let everyone know how it goes. I'm in uncharted waters here, guys.
    06-13-2011, 08:15 AM
Originally Posted by writer23    
Yes, Kitten_Val, I most certainly do pay for my lessons, lol. Imagine a 30 year old who didn't?
Lol! My mom keeps telling me she's paying for my horses (I do have a job and it's more like a joke of course).

Yes, let us know how it goes (especially your impression from new coach!).
    06-13-2011, 10:11 AM
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I share a couple of my students with other instructors and I have no problems with it. I do jumpers/dressage/event. I have never done hunters and do not know all the little details that one needs to show there. I don't pretend to be able to help people there. A couple of my students dabble in hunters and there is a hunter instructor that they go to. I seldom come across differing opinions that get in the way. If I do, when in my lesson, we will discuss the differences and I will explain why there is a difference in my discipline.

If your instructor has a problem with it, it is likely an ego thing.
    06-13-2011, 05:15 PM
Take lessons from both. Once I start showing again this fall, I'll probably keep with my current instructor like normal, but then take 1-2 lessons a month from a nearby show hunter barn, for a bit of polishing, if you will.

As long as you're up front with them both, I don't think it will be a problem. And really, you may find you much prefer one instructor over the other.

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