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post #1 of 5 Old 08-11-2012, 10:51 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy frustrated, I know it's me, but need advice

I am feeling very frustrated today. My daughter and I went out to try a prospect today. My daughter did pretty well with him (I expected this since she is much more proficient than I am) but when I got on him he didn't seem to want to walk. After a bit of walking he kept breaking into a trot and his stopping wasn't to good for me either. Obviously, he was too much horse for me to handle. Anyhow, after that we head to the barn to work with the horse we are half leasing. He is a lazy horse but tonight it seemed like I was squeezing him every other step just to keep him at a working walk. After he was warmed up we tried to trot and it was a disaster. He would jump into the trot and then slow to a stop almost immediantly. When I finally got him to sustain a trot for more than a 1/4 of a circle my/his steering went to heck. I feel totally depressed that I can't even get this horse to trot a whole 20 m circle (something I can do easily on my regular lesson horse). I know that I have only been taking weekly lessons since last Sept. and that I am a novice; however is it too much to ask to be able to find a horse that a beginner can ride walk trot without having a instructor watching every second?
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post #2 of 5 Old 08-11-2012, 11:40 PM
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Sounds like you need lessons on your lease horse. It's easy to ride school horses but those other horses out there either are more "hot" than a schoolhorse needs to be, or lack in training.. or are so well trained that they're a mess for beginners.

And there is nothing wrong with being a beginner. Just that it's time to move up a level with a trainer by your side.

Lessons on different kinds of horses will further expand your horse riding skills to a range of horses and not just the wellbehaved ones.

It's okay; don't feel depressed. Take this as a sign that you have a little more to work on now :) You'll get there in no time!

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post #3 of 5 Old 08-11-2012, 11:46 PM
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Agree with the above, take some lessons on your lease horse, maybe have the trainer get up on him and have a little CTJ meeting about maintaining his gaits.

Don't get frustrated, or I should say don't let it get you down. Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs in your skill levels come right after you get so frustrated you just want to kick something.
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post #4 of 5 Old 08-11-2012, 11:48 PM
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ARRGGHH! The dreaded ever watchful instructor, bystander, you name it - someone is always watching. Don't you know that Murphy's law says that when you have somebody watching you, your horse will do everything in his power to make you look like a ding dong. That's just the way it is (at least in my world...LOL!)

I say go back and get some riding time in by yourself on that other horse WITHOUT the ever watchful eye, and take a friend and just make it a fun day. It sounds like (i might be wrong) that your every move (for the most part) is maintained by the trainer and you don't get enough free time to venture down your own horsie path of self-discovery in riding?

And no, it is not too much to ask to have a sane and FUN horse to ride. If it is any other kind, then it isn't fun! And for what it's worth, I think it is great that you are riding with your daughter (something constructive to do together)...mine grew up with horsies (whereas I craved them forever until I got my first at 14) and she is completely immune to the horse bug....maybe my youngest will get bitten. One can only hope!
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post #5 of 5 Old 08-12-2012, 07:36 AM
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I hate riding school horses.

I did a stint of lessons earlier this year and the horses weren't great. I mean they weren't bad horses but they were used to beginners riding them, and they were dead to the leg, seat and bit.

I needed to push them along constantly and in the end the instructor said "you did great, not many people can get him to canter". And this is with every horse there. I spent most of the lesson just trying to get the horse moving every lesson and learned little. In the end I bought my own horse because at least then I could work on things and they would improve.

Some instructors have some great horses for lessons, but in my experience most don't.

It can be a good learning experience to ride different horses, but after a while it can just hinder your learning. You have to make a call for yourself.
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