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post #1 of 8 Old 05-08-2012, 09:20 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy frusturated and need advice

I've posted before about the problems i've had as a rider with my horse merlin, and he's gotten worse i've tried new tack, and different styles of riding wth him
I rode him on monday and he bolted into a canter and almost had me off of him. also i loosen my reins and he almost pulls me over his head, he also tries to run me into fences or into his run in shed.
I'm at the point where i don't want to even try to ride him anymore.

so before you tell me it's my fault, as a rider i ride hunt seat and my trainer says i'm good enough to start showing this year. I do everything right in my lesson with her but when i get on my horse it's not the same. i'm not hard at all with my hands.

He's 17 and i got him when he was 9. over the years i haven't rode him as much as i should have and i blame most of that on my parents. Everything i try to do right as a horse owner like riding more,training, supplements my mom doesn't want to do. also when i got him he wasn't fully trained, he was used as a leadline lesson horse.But according to the lady i got him from " he doesn't know his left lead".

I'm at the point with him where he doesn't even want to walk without breaking into a trot and stopping him is another story... when i ride even at a walk he throws his head up in the air.

I love him more than anything and i would do anything for him, and i just want to have a nice ride when i get on him.

sorry for my rant..

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post #2 of 8 Old 05-08-2012, 09:28 PM
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You need to take your horse with you to lessons. If that's not possible, find an instructor that will give you lessons with your horse at your place. There is no quick fix for this, someone experienced needs to watch you ride your horse and evaluate the problems and instruct you how to correct them, if you can. They may even tell you your horse needs to go to a trainer before you can ride him properly.
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post #3 of 8 Old 05-09-2012, 12:43 AM
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At this point you can't blame. Work harder and make it happen or move on. My mare threw me weekly when I got her, guess what, I rode harder and went to the trainer with her and our issues.
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post #4 of 8 Old 05-09-2012, 12:56 AM
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I'm no expert, but it sounds like he's decided he's the boss not you. Have you done any ground work with him? If he doesn't see you as the leader he's not going to let you do anything with him. I'd suggest going back to basics, starting on the ground and working your way back up into the saddle.
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post #5 of 8 Old 05-09-2012, 12:19 PM
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I think you definitely need outside help. You've had him for eight years and you're still having trouble with basic things - there is obviously a seriously problem here.

It doesn't matter if your trainer says you're ready for showing or not, that is pretty much irrelevant in regards to riding ability. I think you need to get an instructor to come out to you and teach you on your horse. It's no use riding perfectly behaved school horses if you can't ride your own.

When you get an instructor out be honest about your problems and don't just get them to correct your riding, ask them to teach you methods you can implement when riding on your own the gain control, if the instructor can't do this then get another one. You don't need to look pretty, you need control. Be proactive and learn exercises you can do to work with your horse again.
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post #6 of 8 Old 05-09-2012, 11:56 PM
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First - don't blame your parents. That's the wasy way out.

Get an instructor to help you out. Your horse has absolutely got your number, you need to get tough and break the cycle. If he goes to take off in canter, sit back on your seat bones, legs forward and take his head off. He tries to run to his shed, turn him on a circle, make him work, move his quarters out so he has to concentrate on his balance. Never turn him in the direction that he wants to go. YOU need to be the boss, not him. 8 years of this is a lot to undo, so it is not going to be quick or easy. You need some firm help with this horse, and you need to stop blaming, get tough and ride him. He's not doing anything dangerous, he just sounds nappy and a bit naughty. Put on your boss hat and get on with it.

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post #7 of 8 Old 05-10-2012, 12:00 AM
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Look, horses are hard work. All horses will show resistance. If your trainer isn't helping then you need a trainer that will. And you need to step it up. Get educated on how to fix these problems, rather than saying "oh my mom won't let me ride him as much or put him on supplements"

Okay, that's called life. We ALL have those restrictions at times. Gotta do the best with what you've got. Maybe get a job to pay someone to drive you to the barn? I have no clue, but you cannot rely solely on your parents and you can't blame them. YOUR horse, YOUR responsibility.

If you don't feel comfortable schooling him when he takes off on you, get someone on him that can.

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post #8 of 8 Old 05-10-2012, 01:46 AM
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How about getting your trainer on him to see if he behaves the same way towards a more experienced rider? If the trainer manages to get him to behave, then your trainer probably have some tips for you to make your horse listen to you.
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