So now, I'm sure she feels like a total ass after all of you saying what you "would have" done, or that the girl wouldn't have been allowed on the property. For some of you, it's true, but others, think about it.
Fact is, if I were in a similar situation, I probably would have done the same thing she did. I would have let the girl try her out, helped her up, and then just told her something like, "You know, I don't think she's the horse for you." I wouldn't have had the guts to be either blunt, nor rude to someone, especially a brat, because I don't want the rumors and bad blood.
Really, I commend you for facing it as long as you could, giving her the benefit of the doubt, and eventually protecting the best interest for Honey. Good job!!!
I don't think any of us were trying to make the OP feel like an ass. As a matter of fact most, if not all of the posts commend her on her patience.
Trailrider, as to being righteous: I don't think anyone here is being righteous either. But not all of us are as tolerant as SorrelHorse was for our own reasons.
I am NOT tolerant of people that don't have the knowledge or concern for animals but still want to *own* one, which is a huge difference from *caring for* one. In this situation, everyone walked away OK, but it doesn't always turn out like that. I probably would have told the girl right out that I didn't think the horse was for her after all. I would not have lied about the horse being lame, because that can come back to haunt you, but I would not have elaborated on my reasons why I would turn the girl away unless she pushed me for a response. That's not righteous, that's just the way it is.