Hey I'm another "green + green" and although my pony and I are probably the exception and not the rule, we've been the best pair so far! BUT I have had a trainer helping me train her and train myself along the way...yes it costs $$ but to make sure she's learning correctly and we're both being safe, it's worth it!! :)
Good luck, and definitely lean on the advice of people on here, books, trainers, other people, etc and keep an open mind!
"The times when you have seen only one set of footprints in the sand, is when I carried you..."