Looking for some advice in confidence building.
I have a lovely sweet natured predominantly very well behaved cob but I am struggling to keep my nerves under control.
I rode him the other day and he was fine for 5 minutes, then I felt myself start to get nervous, waiting for him to spook ect. As soon as I started to let my nerves take over our ride went down hill, he started to spook all over the place, wouldn't listen to me when I asked him to stop, then began balking and head flicking.
I am starting to feel so frustrated with myself as I know this is all my fault as he is looking for confidence from me but I keep finding myself in such a state that I make him feel my nerves.
as I said he is a very sensible sane horse but he looks for confidence from me and I am struggling
I find myself looking at things he has spooked at before anticipating him to start doing it again
I am not the greatest rider by a very long way so I am nervous of him spooking and I dread the feeling of him running away with me as I am not confident in my riding skills and have got more fearful in my older age!
I brought him to help me as he is a very sensible boy, and if I can get over my wimpyness he will test me in all the right ways.
To sum him up he is probably a confident novice ride, he looks for guidance and isn't strong (most of the time) when he listens and we work together he is simply the best but all of the bad rides of late are down to my nerves
I am looking for advice from anyone who is going through the same issue or has ever overcome there nerves. I know my thoughts are holding me back and I am driving myself loopy
I am even contemplating hypnotherapy, confidence courses, books, more and more lessons ect
Really hoping some of you wonderful people out there can help!
I have a lovely sweet natured predominantly very well behaved cob but I am struggling to keep my nerves under control.
I rode him the other day and he was fine for 5 minutes, then I felt myself start to get nervous, waiting for him to spook ect. As soon as I started to let my nerves take over our ride went down hill, he started to spook all over the place, wouldn't listen to me when I asked him to stop, then began balking and head flicking.
I am starting to feel so frustrated with myself as I know this is all my fault as he is looking for confidence from me but I keep finding myself in such a state that I make him feel my nerves.
as I said he is a very sensible sane horse but he looks for confidence from me and I am struggling
I find myself looking at things he has spooked at before anticipating him to start doing it again
I am not the greatest rider by a very long way so I am nervous of him spooking and I dread the feeling of him running away with me as I am not confident in my riding skills and have got more fearful in my older age!
I brought him to help me as he is a very sensible boy, and if I can get over my wimpyness he will test me in all the right ways.
To sum him up he is probably a confident novice ride, he looks for guidance and isn't strong (most of the time) when he listens and we work together he is simply the best but all of the bad rides of late are down to my nerves
I am looking for advice from anyone who is going through the same issue or has ever overcome there nerves. I know my thoughts are holding me back and I am driving myself loopy
I am even contemplating hypnotherapy, confidence courses, books, more and more lessons ect
Really hoping some of you wonderful people out there can help!