tobysmom, what were the circumstances of your fall? I only ask because do you think your trainer was pushing you too hard and that led to it? I have a very soft spoken trainer who works with me at my pace. There are some trainers who really push which is fine if you want to compete, but I know for me, I want riding to be a pleasure. Not a competition.
I'm 39 and just got back into riding but prior, I had only done western. English has been very challenging for me. I still don't always feel comfortable. I think the best advice I would give someone "older" is to just take it slow. Very slow. Don't push yourself too hard.
Also, I've accepted that there are going to be some things that I simply will never be able to do. Not because I can't, but because I know getting to that point is going to take a lot of falls and I'm just not prepared to do that at my age. So jumps are out of the question for me personally.
And definitely don't ever compare yourself to the younger girls. Kids have different bodies. Things come easier and faster to them. Don't feel you have to compete with the younger set. Take things at your own pace.
If a 12 year old breaks a leg, they are going to have mom catering to them for the next 6 weeks. If I break a leg, I'm screwed! Nobody around to take care of me except my husband who is at work all day.