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post #11 of 28 Old 06-29-2011, 10:46 AM
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Here's a tip: The Queen was forced to stop riding by doctors at the ripe old age of 84. There is hope for us all!

Just get a good trainer and take care. Having a good connection/relationship with your trainer/instructor is very important. Some teaching methods don't work for everyone.
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post #12 of 28 Old 07-01-2011, 09:52 AM
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Oh my are a child!

I have gotten back into riding after about 40 years! I am 59. What were the circumstances of the fall? Is your horse suited to your abilities? That is the secret. Not having too much horse under you when getting back into riding.

We saw some nice horses, really good horses. But they just had a bit too much git up for me.

I know you will find a really good trainer sensitive to your needs. I wish you many years of riding. You have a ton of good years left!
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post #13 of 28 Old 07-01-2011, 11:05 AM
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Hi Tobysmom! Don't give up! Like everyone else said, make sure you get a trainer who understands and matches your expectations! I am 41 and I started last year. I bught my first horse in April. I am having the time of my life, although there are difficult days. I had tried riding, taking lessons at a different place around 7 years ago, but I only lasted a year and left that place thinking riding was not for me. Still, I couldn't give up on my dream I can't believe I even own a horse which I ride and work on the ground every day!!! Welcome to the club!!!
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post #14 of 28 Old 07-04-2011, 09:47 AM
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I agree with all the advice you have been given do not let age put you off its only numbers on a page. If you are physically able to get on and get off go for it. I was in the same position I did not learn to ride until I was 30 as I could not afford the lessons and it was something I had always wanted to do. I had English riding lessons for 3 years and became quite proficient only fell off once. I have been on horses who have jumped logs ( I have never learned to jump) but I stayed on, I have been carted round fields more times than I can remember and been scared witless. I have been kicked and bitten and had horses rear on me. I gave up riding only because my children took over my time and something had to give unfortunately for me it was the riding and I have regretted it ever since.
Then about 10 years ago I developed a very bad back problem which resulted in me being in considerable pain and ended up on two walking sticks after 3 months in bed. I gave in and had major back surgery and had part of a disc removed in my lower back which relieved the constant pain in my lower leg but left me with a partial paralysis in my lower right leg. However I was told by my Consultant that walking would be a problem and I would never ride again. I was also told that it would take 5 years for the nerve damage to repair and whatever shape I was in after that time would be the way I would remain for the rest of my life I was 46 years old. Six months later a friend told me about a 14 year old Cob/Shire X mare that needed a home. I bought her she was in an awful state. My husband thought I had gone insane but that horse saved my life no matter how much pain I was in I had to get up to that yard every day, muck out, feed and turn out. Eventually when she finally trusted me I rode her bare back ( I could not sit on a saddle) through the woods round the roads everywhere she was totally bomb proof and if my back twinged she felt it and would stop until I was ready to go on. If it had not been for her the Doctors prediction would have been true I had her for 6 wonderful years and just before her 20th birthday her troubled past caught up with her and she died in my arms. I could not ride English but I found I could ride western and the saddle was great for my back so after several lessons I decided to get another horse and in 2009 I bought a 2 year old AQH gelding. I continued to have lessons for 2 years and while I was getting my training so was he I finally brought him home last October and he is now 4 years old. It hasn't been easy but then nothing in life worth having is easy. We have had our ups and downs and its not over yet. He spooks at most things because he is young and has lots to learn its a big world out there but I will keep going I have support and providing I can sit to the spooks and stay on with no dire consequences we will have many years of fun together. I am at present nursing a bruised cheek bone and a black eye after a spook the other day but I will be getting back on again tonight. I am now the ripe age of 56 and God willing intend to still be riding when I am 80. So I hope that my story has inspired any of you who think that you are too old too unfit or it is too late for you to follow your dream. I overcame my obstacles and am still continuing to do so. Never give up - I didn't.
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post #15 of 28 Old 07-04-2011, 10:24 AM
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You are 4 years older than me. You are never too old to get back into riding. I haven't gotten on a horse in almost 16 years. I plan on getting back into it myself once I am financially able to. I agree with the other posters, get yourself a trainer and get lessons. I know after taking a 16 year break, I am a bit rusty and it never hurts to keep on learning.
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post #16 of 28 Old 07-04-2011, 04:47 PM
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I got back into it at 40, and it turned me into an 8 year old instantly, so age is not a factor. More than focusing on age, just make sure you and your horse are a good fit for each other. Hopefully you have an instructor you can trust to help you along with your training.

You just have to see your don't have to like it.
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post #17 of 28 Old 07-04-2011, 05:25 PM
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Shilo, your story is very moving, especially when you tell about the 14-yo you took in and nursed back to health as you recovered. This is an inspirational story for all, not just for horse people.
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post #18 of 28 Old 07-04-2011, 06:51 PM
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What the heck? I am 43, and I came down during my 2nd lesson and went to the hospital with a grade 3 concussion (no bleed, thank heavens). I was back up on the horse two weeks later, as soon as I got cleared by my doc.

You are NOT too old to ride.

You should DEFINITELY have a trainer you are comfortable with. My trainer yells a lot, but that is because I am at one end of the ring and she is at the other. She does NOT yell AT me.

Go for it, woman!
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post #19 of 28 Old 07-04-2011, 10:17 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement and inspiring stories. I'm more confident in my decision to keep going with my dream. I am checking into new trainers and moving Toby to a better boarding facility. I'm learning that not every barn is a perfect fit for you. Unfortunately, I have seen the "bad" in some horse people (where my horse is boarded) and the very good & loving horse people (here on horse forum!)
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post #20 of 28 Old 07-05-2011, 11:05 AM
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tobysmom, what were the circumstances of your fall? I only ask because do you think your trainer was pushing you too hard and that led to it? I have a very soft spoken trainer who works with me at my pace. There are some trainers who really push which is fine if you want to compete, but I know for me, I want riding to be a pleasure. Not a competition.

I'm 39 and just got back into riding but prior, I had only done western. English has been very challenging for me. I still don't always feel comfortable. I think the best advice I would give someone "older" is to just take it slow. Very slow. Don't push yourself too hard.
Also, I've accepted that there are going to be some things that I simply will never be able to do. Not because I can't, but because I know getting to that point is going to take a lot of falls and I'm just not prepared to do that at my age. So jumps are out of the question for me personally.

And definitely don't ever compare yourself to the younger girls. Kids have different bodies. Things come easier and faster to them. Don't feel you have to compete with the younger set. Take things at your own pace.
If a 12 year old breaks a leg, they are going to have mom catering to them for the next 6 weeks. If I break a leg, I'm screwed! Nobody around to take care of me except my husband who is at work all day.
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