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post #21 of 28 Old 07-05-2011, 12:31 PM
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My mom was 53 when she started riding. The biggest thing for you to remember is that when you are older, you do break easier. Not saying 39 is old by any means. You don't really need a "trainer" per say but a good beginner level instructor would suffice. You need someone that can teach you the ins and outs of riding and emergency type situations.

One question that needs to be asked is, Is your horse suitable for you? Is he a beginner level safe horse? That is the mistake that many first time owners will make and then they won't want to sell the wrong horse out of love. My mom did it she bout a 4 year old just gelded barely trained horse that I ended up riding for her. at 11 years old now, he never will be what I would consider beginner safe. Intermediate beginner yes, but not beginner beginner.

when looking for instruction, you need someone that is not going to yell at you because my geuss is, after what you went through, your confidence is nearly shattered and will need to be built back up again. You need someone that is smart enough to guide you safely back into the saddle.

Good luck!

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Farmpony84 I think you're right about Toby might not be a beginner horse. I found a new place to board him today with indoor/outdoor arena and professional trainers on site. They are going to be giving me lessons on a "beginner safe" horse until I get my confidence back again. They are going to work with Toby while I'm nursing my wounds.
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post #23 of 28 Old 07-06-2011, 06:44 AM
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That was my question as well.

I have returned to riding at 59 and knew that my confidence level was low. We looked at a few horses, but I knew immediately they were not for us. Just a bit too much under the hood.

Not that I couldn't ride them, but they certainly were not confidence builders.

I hope you and your horse reach a common ground where everything is equal.. Their temperment and your abilities.

Thank goodness we found the perfect horse for both my husband and I. He has get up and go for him, but is a lamb and bombproof for me.

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post #24 of 28 Old 07-06-2011, 08:04 AM
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Dont give up! You will ride your Toby boy again. Tell the other people the opinions are like butt holes.....everyone has one and they all stink!!! Follow your dream!
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post #25 of 28 Old 07-06-2011, 08:48 AM
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Tobysmom you are not to old as you have seen by all of these stories. Some have been very inspiring to me as well.

I grew up riding horses and had to sell mine after I married...economic down turn of the early 80's did my riding in. Fast forward to I am about to turn 50 and I told my husband when we were running from Hurricane Ike that I was getting a horse! He said no you aren't and I said "honey, I am not the girl you married. I didn't ask you...I am just letting you know what I am doing".

I went looking for a horse and found one 5 hours away that was well bred, supposedly well trained, had a rider that was only 8 on occasion and had been shown in Western Pleasure. Long and short...he took off running and bucking when I walked him down to the end of the arena, my big butt came off at the end of the arena by my husband who was horrified and petrified for me and my leg was the size of California. Black and blue from hip to foot with severe infection/nerve damage. It was ugly and painful and scary. My leg is still discolored and feels funny when touched where I had the most damage as it has nerve damage. My cousin saw the pictures the other day and said "Do you realize how much blood you lost?" She is the director of an ER and has been an ER nurse for years. So yeah...I got hurt badly but really, the worst damage was to my confidence.

I used to be a confident rider. I did buy a horse 2 months later. In hind sight, I wish I had just taken lessons for about 6 months. My horse was gentle though and I just adored him. I did have to give him up due to a health issue he had and couldn't trail ride. I did take lessons on him though which helped my confidence. I bought another horse that is gentle and pretty bomb proof. Hogs ran out from under a bush ten feet from him a few weeks ago and all he did was flinch hard. (Thank God) I had always said if I came off a horse again I'd be too scared to get back on. Well, I rode Biscuit down the ranch road one day and 3 horses burst out of their shelter running towards us and Biscuit obviously thought danger was coming and did a 180 and took off. I came off in the grass because I was unbalanced. LOL I walked over to him and he looked at me like "Dummy, I got you out of danger and you were too dumb to hang on!" I mounted up and rode him back to the stables. I wasn't as scared as I thought.

I still have my moments that I get a little uptight but I love riding, I love being around them. I bought hubby a horse 2 years ago so we ride together and I have a whole new crew of "peeps" I ride with - one a cousin that I didn't know I had! So riding has been a thrill for me and every day I am still overcoming my fears, facing them down and going on. I don't know if I will ever be the rider I was as a teenager but I do know I am not going to let that stop me!

Glad you weren't hurt too badly and keep taking those lessons from someone who will help you get your confidence up and your skill levels improving. Keep posting and let us know how you are coming along.

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QIS- love the dummy story! Good for you on getting back on!!!!
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post #27 of 28 Old 07-06-2011, 08:52 AM
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Definitely get a trainer to help you with your riding skills and to get your confidence up!
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post #28 of 28 Old 07-06-2011, 10:54 AM
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Don't give up! Find a new teacher if you need to. A good instructor will be absolutely invaluable to you, and it makes all the difference in the world. I don't think I'd still have my love today if I hadn't met my instructor, because I simply couldn't handle him.

I hope everything goes well at your new stable! It sounds like you've found out already that horse people can be night and day. Some are wonderful, and some are rotten. Hopefully you'll have more experience with the former. =]

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