Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: An English Girl living in beautiful Alberta, Canada
• Horses: 0
LadyMustang, slidestop didn't accuse you of balancing on the reins because she thinks you want to hurt the horse. She just pointed out the honest obvious truth that if you are needing to hold the horn for balance (and there isn't a beginner in the world that hasn't needed to), then it is likely that you are indeed unintentionally balancing on the reins.
In other words, you have the reins in your hand, you get off-balance, you accidentally pull on the reins as your body weight goes back.
As I have said before, there are a ton of good horse men and women on this forum, and an awful lot of instructors too. When more than one person says that an instructor who has you galloping up a hill in your first or second lesson is not the best instructor for you, you should think about what they say.
I am sure that your instructor is a nice person, quite possibly a good rider, probably a horse lover. But I am doubting that he or she is a qualified riding instructor. Would you go to a school full of teachers that liked books but had never trained as a teacher? Would you like your computer to be mended by someone who is really really good at computer games but doesn't actually know how computer language is written? It's the same with horse riding.
Riding a horse is like any other sport. If you want to be good at it you must master the basics first. By all means enjoy free trail rides with this person, but think about looking elsewhere for some lessons.
Get up, get going, seize the day. Enjoy the sunshine, the rain, cloudy days, snowstorms, and thunder. Getting on your horse is always worth the effort.